3 Powerful Insights I Learned When She Dumped Me
When she pulled the rug out from under me, I had to face what I had done wrong during our time together and how I should go about fixing myself so I could move steadily forward. The points regarding my whole experience follow. I point them out in the hopes that you won't have to suffer as I did.
First, a breakup usually occurs, regardless of what appearances may be, because one of the two needs some time, or space away, from the other. While some may say that's a bad thing, it's not necessarily so. My ex gave me that song and dance about wanting “breathing room.” What she really needed to do was just come out and say she wanted time to think about the future and get her ducks in a row. If your girl had been that straight forward, I bet she would have realized, sooner or later, that life with you would be best. Just because she has broken off with you for a while because she needs “space”, doesn't necessarily mean she's done with you.
Second, breakups are a tough thing to get through, but you can look at it in one of two ways: It's the end of something good. Or it's the beginning of something better. It goes without saying that I was pretty blue for a while. But, the opportunity for renewal presented itself. The breakup meant “Wake Up!” to me. It helped me realize just how tired my life had become. The routine of my life had become drudgery. I would go to my job, come home to a little small talk, eat dinner, and hit the sack. I had let the things that meant a lot to me slip away. The breakup gave me some space to explore new things and reconnect with old things I loved. It helped me to focus on that which was important to me.
The third thing I learned was very important. Would a woman be attracted back into your life if it wasn't attractive? Probably not. ”Of course,” one might say; but I made all sorts of desperate mistakes. I was pretty miserable and would call her a number of times each day to tell her how much I cared and just to hear her voice. How could I be surprised that she had dumped a little squealer like me. I had to step back and remember that she once was in love with me and that I had forgotten how to be the attractive man that once made her laugh and smile. She fell in love with you once. Show her why she did.
”Painful” is the word to describe breakups, but they do happen. Of course, if you're reading this you already know that. Here's the scoop, a breakup is not the end. There you go. Breakups are no fun. Whatever happens to you and the girl who dumped you, you have a new path to take, a path to a better life, the same way I traveled when my ex left me “room” to grow.
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