3 Proven Strategies for Getting Your Ex-Girlfriend Back!
How is it that when your pals get dumped, it doesn't take long at all for their girls to come back to them? You may have heard it said that a man without a plan is a man without a woman. To get your woman back you have to do as your friends did – using the techniques presented here, make a plan to get her back and then follow through! Won't it be a happy day when she's there at your door, imploring you to take her back!
Memorize and follow these pointers:
1. Give her some time on her own to think things through.
When confronted by circumstances, a person's ability to make objective evaluations is clouded by the nature of those circumstances. This seems to be even more pronounced in women than in men, perhaps because the right side of the brain, which controls emotional thinking, is more active among women than among men.
Over time, thought processes are shifted from the emotional to the logical – that is, from right to left. You want that to happen, but if she has contact with you during that time, it'll keep her thoughts of you in the right brain. This might take as much as a month or so, but no less than two weeks. After a couple of weeks, as her thinking becomes more logical, she may start thinking that her action – breaking up with you – was a mistake. Don't let it go more than a month or so before you contact her, though, or there may be other damage because of the lack of communication.
2. Don't let a breakup make you a recluse!
Just because she walked out on you doesn't mean you have to walk out on her friends who've become your friends! You still need to know how she's progressing, and you need to make certain that she gets the right information about you.
Her friends truly are your ambassadors, and you need to be at the peak of your diplomatic skills. Remember, a diplomat is never negative, and neither should you be. Instead, when you talk with them, don't go overboard, but make it clear that you're confident that the time you spent with her was the best time of your life. On a regular basis, her friends will report back to her on your appearance, your outlook, and your conversations. What you really want, and it very well may happen, is to win her friends over and have them tell her that she was wrong to dump you. Even if that doesn't take place, though, they'll be telling her how much you loved her and how important the relationship was to you.
3. Make her regret her decision
Nothing, really, is as complex as love. It has many elements, and one of the most puzzling, and potentially dangerous, is jealousy. Properly handled, though, you can manipulate a woman's jealousy to make her want you back. Keep in mind that since jealousy is an emotion connected to love, if she didn't really love you before she broke up with you, she's not going to respond to attempts to make her jealous. If that happens, looking foolish might be the least of your worries.
Many plans of attack can be taken to make her jealous. An decent first approach to making her jealous could include visiting nightspots she likes to frequent, and dancing and flirting with the women there. It isn't necessary for her to see you directly – if her friends see you out and about and having a good time with other women, you can be sure that reports will be made to her quickly! Of course, a more direct approach, although one which carries a higher degree of potential emotional harm, would be to carry on this behavior with her friends themselves. You need to exercise caution here, though – unless handled properly, it could harm her friendships, which could jeopardize your chances with her. The fact that you're carrying on with other women will cause her to be jealous. If she knows any of the women – if they're her friends – it'll make her more jealous, and perhaps also very resentful.
If you make her jealous, she'll want to protect her feelings for you, which are endangered by the presence of the other women. Now in addition to feeling jealous because you're carrying on with other women, she's also embarrassed because her friends are very aware of all that's going on. What better way to make things right than to get back together with you? Now you're ideally situated to take her back on your terms. Remember that the flirting was just a means to this end – your girl cannot be left to feel that she has any rivals, or anything to worry about. Make sure she knows that you love her, and only her!
If you found this article helpful and would like to learn more ways to improve your relationship with your ex girlfriend, check out How to Get Back Your Ex Girlfriend, Getting Back Your Ex Girlfriend, and How to Win Back Your Girlfriend.
