4 Ways To Tell If Your Lover Is Lying
We're always told that trust is essential to a relationship so when you suspect that your partner is lying to you, it's horribly frustrating. But there's one thing worse and that's when you know he or she is lying, but won't own up.
I sincerely hope that everyone coupled person reading this hasn't had to deal with this situation. I hope that you have evolved to the point where petty lies are a thing of the past and that you're living happily ever after in the bright sunshine of love and honesty.
It would be more accurate to say that in the real world our normally perfect and wonderful partners have a couple of drinks too many on occasion, and that makes them do stupid things like make out with strangers at a bar. To top it off, they lie to us about it. If you need a little help in figuring out whether or not your partner is lying or you're just paranoid, keep reading.
1. Your words are repeated back to you
When your partner simply repeats your words back to you, it's a tell tale sign that he or she is not being completely honest with you. This stall technique is a classic and give him or her more time to make up an answer they think you will believe. You probably remember doing the same thing in school when the teacher asked you a question that you didn't know the answer to. Didn't work then either, did it?
2. The eyes tell all
It's said that eyes are the windows to the soul. In the case of a liar, he or she will not want to look straight into yours unless he or she is a pathological liar in which case you should just cut and run. If your lover is shifty eyed, take a glance at his or her pupils. If they're spinning lies, their pupils will likely be dilated.
3. Discrepancies
Here's the dumbest thing ever: your boyfriend was out all night and you have it on good information that was up to no good. When asked about it, this must-think-I'm-an-idiot jerk changes his story, even just slightly, every time he goes over it again. I'm sorry but even if I'm stressed because I think my significant other doesn't believe me, or suspects me of something I know I haven't done, there's no way I'm going to just forget the truth.
What will happen when someone is telling the truth is that you'll be told the same thing over and over again. Because a truthful person will want you to believe them, so they'll repeat themselves ad nauseum until you do. If your guy or gal's story takes on a shape shifting quality, beware.
4. Overly defensive
Now, keep in mind how you are approaching your sweetie in this situation; if you're in attack mode, even the most kind and honest of the bunch are going to get defensive, which can make anyone look guilty. But if your partner's level of defensiveness is way out of proportion to the tone of your conversation, that might be their pre-existing lie guilt bubbling up to the surface. Even if you don't know they're lying yet, if they suspect you know of their dishonesty, they're going to throw up their walls. Related sign: they use overly convincing language.
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