5 Self-Help Rules To Save Your Marriage
Human beings are social animals and crave companionship. After a person feels secure about his basic needs like food, clothing and shelter, he turns his attention to a woman to share his life’s journey. It is important that we save relationships that foster goodwill, not only within the family but also in the community. High on the list is saving marriage from divorce.
• Marriage is an institution that sanctifies and legalizes a woman and man living together. This has been a socially acceptable form of cohabitation for centuries in most parts of the world. In today’s hi-tech world with new cultures and subcultures springing up with an accent on personal freedom and privacy, this institution is facing a challenge.
• Marriage offers emotional security and physical intimacy to both husband and wife. It is very natural for couples to have differences of opinion, but they should learn to agreeably disagree rather than break up. More often than not it is a clash of egos that ends a relationship. It is, therefore, essential that necessary steps be taken to save marriage from divorce.
• Marriages change over time. It is pertinent to remember that what drew two people together will not help keep them together. As a relationship changes over time, there is a shift in priorities. While dating the man and woman spend time trying to impress each other. Once they marry, the vagaries of domestic life dominate and romance takes a back seat. Women often being more emotional tend to feel a bit neglected by their partner who spends more time working to be a better provider. With the birth of children, much of a woman’s time is spent taking care of them and she struggles to divide her time between household chores and work outside the home. At this point the man most likely feels neglected. It is, therefore, important for both man and woman regularly to communicate frankly and work out a plan that will enable them to save marriage from divorce.
• Marriages require certain elements. Mutual trust, faith, love, respect and understanding are essential for marriage or any other relationship to survive and thrive. People make mistakes. Sometimes an unintentional remark uttered yelled on the spur of the moment can cause anger and resentment. If a spouse is cheating, if he/she is being indifferent or if the spouse feels he/she is not paying as much attention it is necessary for them to discuss the issues. This will help save relationships.
• Marriages can weather storms. Matters can be sorted through dialogue and discussion. When two people make the decision they want to live with each other for the rest of their lives, there is common ground. Couples should spend quality time alone at least once a week. Time together will help them to develop an overall perspective and rekindle the romance in their lives. One of the partners should take the initiative and break the ice or they should take the help of a counselor like the pastor of the local church or a marriage counselor to sort out the contentious issues.
If even one of the partners is willing, there are a lot of resources available like self-help books, DIY videos and marital therapists who can help save marriage from divorce.
