A Simple Approach to achieving Marriage Reconciliation.
Marriage reconciliation – the initial contact.
Generally speaking, the initial move to look at some form of assistance to work through a marriage split is made by just one of the partners in the relationship rather than both. Occasionally the ex husband will take the lead but more often than not it will be the ex wife.
In the initial stages of consultation with a guidance counselor it is standard practice for them to deal exclusively with the party who made the initial approach. This is considered the most effective way of managing the issue as that particular party has already demonstrated a [desire wish] to reconcile. An experienced counselor will have dealt with most marriage issues and will formulate a plan to help guide you through the reconciliation process. You may however be confident of dealing with your break up on your own without any outside help.
Above all be totally honest with yourself.
Step one in succeeding with marriage reconciliation is to spend time evaluating what caused your marital difficulties and then making a decision as to whether or not it is likely that these difficulties can be overcome. You have got to be completely honest with yourself as to the reasons for the issues that led to your marriage break up. If you believe that it is possible to set aside these reasons, and any part that you may have played in the break up, then once you are back with your ex you are more than likely to head down the path to another marriage break up with minimal chance of a permanent reconciliation.
Any negative traits that you are able to identify in yourself such as poor grooming, argumentativeness, lack of compromise and so forth should be worked on in an effort to make yourself more attractive to your ex partner.
How to make the approach to your ex partner.
This is considered by most to be the hard part. There are several ways of accomplishing this:
- There's the casual approach where you meet "unpredictably" at a place that you know your ex frequents.
- Take the initiative and write, text or email, asking for a chat to just catch up over a coffee etc.
- Generally the most successful approach is to have a mutual friend act as a go between to set up a casual meeting with a view to discussing subjects of mutual interest.
It is advantageous at the initial meeting with your ex to simply keep the chat super cool. Cover superficial topics only, unless you are drawn into a deeper conversation by your ex–then go with the flow. Your spouse may be just as enthusiastic as you are to save your marriage. If the subject of your reconciliation doesn't arise then just lay the ground work for another meeting at which you can subtly raise the subject of a renewal of your relationship into the conversation.
