Are You Insulting Your partner Without Knowing It?
One of the worst verbal blunders to make when talking to a romantic friend is the accidental insult. You know, when you try to say something nice but instead, they take it as a negative and suddenly you're back-tracking, explaining, and apologizing and the whole moment is ruined? Sigh. I hate that. But it happens.
Keep reading for three of the most common "Whoops" insults and how to fix things if they happen to slip out from between your lips;
1) "I've never dated anyone like you before"
What you meant to say was "you're fantastic!", but what he/she will be thinking is that they don't measure up to your previous partners. Avoid comparing your current sweetie to your past ones even if you mean to put them at the top of the list. Especially at the beginning of a relationship, your guy or gal wants to believe they're the first, not the last in a long string.
If the words have already escaped your mouth, you can usually recover from this blunder by reassuring your current sweetie that they're just miles ahead of the people in your past. Follow with a few specific and sincere compliments, but for heaven's sake don't lie. Avoid being overly wordy. Depending on your sweetie's self esteem, it may take him or her a few minutes to remember that they are the apple of your eye and that you're with them because you want to be.
2) "Size, schmise, it really doesn't matter"
OMG, no, you did not just say that! People, don't we know by now that this is never okay? Okay, okay, I've slipped up and said it before. You've said it before. Your grandmother probably said it. And I'm guessing that every time, it was received the same way: awkward, sudden insecurity and a perceived insult against his manhood.
The thing is that unless your man's manhood is of an unusual size in either direction, size really doesn't matter. But no man will believe it. The easiest way to fix this is to quickly, and I mean very quickly, explain what you mean. A little extra attention wouldn't hurt either.
3) "I can't believe you got the job!"
A lot of us are insecure, especially when we're job hunting. So it shouldn't be a surprise that your sweetie didn't take this particular outburst well. A compliment should be just that, a compliment! Something like "Well of course you got the job!" or "I never doubted it for a minute". That's a compliment.
When you react to your sweetie's great news with surprise chances are they will think you doubt their ability, which of course you don't. Annoying as it may be, when you stop to think about it, it makes sense. Their reaction is justified because you're supposed to be their biggest fan.
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