Common Ground Makes For Better Relationships
Opposites definitely attract when provided that you and the opposite pole are made of magnets. When it comes to relationships, this only goes as far as sexual orientation is concerned. Beyond that, the rule ceases to apply.
Can stark contrasts in persona's result to a failed marriage? Can it become a convenient excuse for a change of heart? Let us scrutinize two couples, John and Victoria, on opposite poles, and Jason and Christine, very much on the same page.
Let us try to analyze a hypothetical relationship of a couple who are opposites and see the likelihood of Mike giving Kay a solitaire engagement ring. Mike is a workaholic. He works Mondays through Fridays and even does overtime on Saturdays. Tired and stressed, he prefers be a potato couch at home. He spends his Sundays watching TV and sleeps early to get ready for the next business day. Kay, on the other hand, loves the outdoors. Whenever she can, Kay goes out with friends to play golf. Looking at both their lifestyles, it is difficult to see how they will have enough time for each other.
Do you think Mike will even have time to think of finding a nice gift to add to Kay's collection of golf gifts? If they do find the time, one is inclined to doubt its quality. How will Kay enjoy a whole day watching TV, when what she is used to is seeing the greenery and feeling the breeze gently blow her hair she walks through the golf course? In the same manner, how can one expect Mike to enjoy tagging behind Kay as she putts her way to the 18th hole? A solitaire engagement ring may not be the future for them.
During the same party, Christine and Jason also met. Unlike the previous couple, the meeting ended at that. It was in a bowling tournament that they both joined that they linked up again. Having the same set of friends, they would at times have coffee before heading out their own ways. Soon, they began having warm up bowling games together. Not long after, Jason grew a liking for Christine's company, even while their conversations grew longer. Unlike his ex, Christine is very much into the sport, and who better to understand his spending much time and money on it, than her.
Between the two couple, who would better welcome early pregnancy signs? The couple that slowly drifted apart because the differences went unnoticed at the onset, John and Victoria? Or Jason and Christine, the pair that did not hit it at first, but over the course of time, fell for each other as they realized how alike they were?
For any relationship to flourish, couples need to spend time together. They need to appreciate one another; and know that they are being appreciated too. If you ask me, Jason and Christine will probably have better chances of a long and happy future together.
Chemistry between couples must be sustained. If not, the fire dies down and is reduced to but a smoldering heap. Make sure that before falling head over heel over someone, there exists a bond, a like for things in common.
