Communication skill

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Communication skill

There are many tools for great communication skill that you need to have, and without them you might be at a disadvantage. When you think about it and examine all of the great people of history or of the present day, they all have one thing in common. Almost completely without exception they are powerful communicators.

Perhaps you're now wondering what some of the aspects of good communication skill are…

I believe that the first factor should be having a message that is big enough, that you just have to share it with others. You want to share it with your community, your family, the society you live in or the whole world. This message will burn inside of you like a bright flame and will touch, move and inspire everyone and everything around you.

All the powerful and influencial people you can think of have such a message that is visionary, and they look at the world from a different angle.

It goes without saying that your vision must touch a need or anxiety that occupies your listeners so that they know you understand them and their pain.

With your message, you want to offer a solution to that pain or problem, a solution that is easily implemented. You communicate this solution by giving a new perspective on the real nature of the problem. With your great communication skill, you can cause a paradigm shift in people on a deep level.

Those who have this level of communication skill will be entirely certain, deep within themselves, of the validity of their vision and message.

By having that degree of certainty in your solution, your idea, your vision, you start to be passionate and committed when sharing your message. Passionate sharing is a powerful means to get other people to commit to you and to your ideas. When you're not passionate, everything that you say, either using verbal or nonverbal communication, will will sound flat and meaningless to the people you speak to and they will recognize the insincerity right away.  

Be sincere and don't try to lie to people and dupe them.

Having great communication skill can't be separated from knowing your subject matter well. You will have done your research and weighed up the pros and cons. You will have come to a reasoned conclusion that is backed up by data from credible sources and credible people. You will be able to quote abstracts from relevant data during your discussions or presentation without having to pause and try to remember.

Just these two aspects alone will give you more confidence and you will be more certain about your ability to deliver a powerful message. Because being confident and being seen as confident are critical factors in good communication skill.

But wait…There is more…. 

Enthusiasm, confidence and expertise are only the beginning of your journey to great communication skill.

There are also things like the speed of speech or talking, your tone, pitch and where you insert pauses….Or not!

Next is your physical appearence, because around 80% of how people experience the world comes through their visual sense. Have you ever heard people say that you only ever get one chance to make a good first impression. This applies not only to your clothes but also your hair, skin and clean teeth. Perhaps I'm a little over the top here and that is because I want you to have a comprehensive check list of things to consider.

People will form an impression of you in the first two seconds, and they will then make a decision about you from this first impression that may be very difficult to change because it will be made unconsciously.

There's one other thing that influences people's impression of you, and that is your body language. Around 93% of what people tell each other about themselves comes from their body language and is entirely unconscious. This means that your impressions of other people are mostly unconsciously formed…

AND…

Their impression of you, too…

For great communication skill you would also want to consider anchored stated, to use a bit of jargon. You will use these to create the right frame of mind before you even start to communicate. Expert communicators also use anchored states to create a receptive frame of mind with their listeners. These can be tonal, positional and may involve the use of timelines and other methods.

You can relax about all of these more technical things as I will be examining each of them in more detail in subsequent articles.

In the mean time, you may want to find out what it is that you believe in strongly enough that you have to communicate it with your world.
By the way…I know that some of you may not know yet what it is you wish to say….But if you were to know….What would it be?