Confidence and Creating A Relationship
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Specialist , writes… …
A Life Coach for people with self-confidence or self-esteem issues is extremely helpful in addressing this next question. Women tend to suffer the most from trust, abandonment and worthiness problems. Life Coach Advice for Women is one way to solve this problem in life coaching. Anita asks: “Are some of us just meant to be lonely forever”? Anita, considering the fact that you responded to the survey concerning relationships and the Law of Attraction, I'm going to assume you've thinking about creating love for yourself. There are many who decide to stay out of intimate relationships. And that need not be the case for someone who has given up after they've continuously been unsuccessful. Nothing at all is wrong with wanting to be without a serious relationship. Your life can be fulfilled and fantastic with any choice you make.
As long as you realize you are deciding that rather than giving up out of frustration that you have not met the love of a lifetime. You can acquire it all in a relationship and in life.
If you could see yourself from the perspective of Source or your Inner Being, or the Universe, you'd see a beautiful, magnificent, brilliant, connected entity. Then life begins to occur around us. Our oblivious parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to guide us, teach us from day one what we need to watch out for, warn us, caution us, and attempt to shelter us, effectively having us listen to their fears and projections of insecurity rather than listening to our personal guidance systems. OK, I will give you as brand new creatures we do require protection. Fine. But soon after they understand to function by themselves, self-actualization should be part of the training for the little ones.
Well-intentioned guides want to do the best thing so they guide, caution, admonish, and scare young ones to make them behave. This only creates an underlying insecurity and inability. The sensation of not-enoughness gets embedded as a child.
Brain research now tells us that until the age of 7, we are so open and available to receive, we have no filtering abilities at all. We walk around in a kind of hypnagogic trance and become amazed with whatever comes into our life experience. It's no wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misguided, beliefs about an imperfect nature. By the time we are 6 years old, we've listened to the word “NO” approximately 60,000 times. Watch out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, do not drop that. The recurring message is you're unworthy, you can't believe in yourself, you don't know what you are doing, and so on.
Our parents and elders were certainly well-meaning. They simply intended for our well-being. But you can see how simply we've been trained away from our inherent beauty and brilliance.
I recommend that you go easy with yourself and let yourself have a break. Firstly, it's not your fault. It is not even the fault of your elders. They were taught the same way as well. You can stop the perpetration of lower self-esteem on yourself and those you care about. You deserve to have anything you wants.
Do your very best to lavish yourself appreciation and self-acceptance. Treat yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The reality is, the Universe appreciates, Spirit adores you, and your Inner Being loves you. Why? Because you ARE perfect. And that IS the truth!
