Dealing With A Passive Aggressive Husband
It is difficult to learn what is going on in this relationship, fast; it's more of a slow process.. A slight mismatch between what you perceive and what he intends you to see, pushes you to see that you can't be sure of the connection with this person, and all your security crumbles..
She never could tell which of the two responses: love or hatred would be on her way, due to his passive aggressive behavior..
The sequence of impacts went from mental torture, to a little love to broken promises to heart pain in an unbroken string of facts.. It was easier to doubt herself than to accept that his affection was false..
She accused herself? There was the possibility of him behaving better due to her giving more love, only in her imagination.?
There is no need to blame yourself. The worst aspect is that by seeing her vulnerability, his power grows..
To invite a passive aggressive husband to change is a loss of time, and he can continue to express himself in his own way ignoring her needs..
How can you know which way is best in dealing with passive aggression??
After long years of living inside the passive aggressive cocoon, there is little hope of change.. It is NOT a response to her behavior; it’s his “normal response” to everything that happens in his world, his marriage included…
Without entering into the psychological elements of what makes this person behave in such a defensive way, what is important to see is that this is a way of being, structurally organized, and nobody can change it from the outside.
Only the person who has learned to react in this way can realize the damage it causes to any relationship and make a plan to modify his own responses.
If he really needs this marriage, he has to pay attention to what the wife tells him about how his actions impact her.. Claiming how much his answers hurt her, she was helping him take responsibility of his actions and plan to change.
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