Divorce – Is it the Right Answer?
It is a sad fact that of all Americans who have been married, one out of three has also experienced at least one divorce. All couple have problems from time to time and more than once; which can be seen by the high rate of divorce in America. Marriage problems can be solved by the open communication and strong agreement to one another. Couples who are serious about saving the relationship may find professional counseling to be useful in helping them to reconnect emotionally again.
Some problems escalate into insurmountable barriers to a successful marriage, unfortunately. Generally these seemingly unsolvable issues stem from one or both partners refusing to address their problems while they are still manageable. Eventually, thanks to a pattern of hurt feelings and building resentments, one spouse can become emotionally distant toward the other. As one of the couple get more entangled in such thoughts, soon the couple will end up seeking divorce.
Lack of communication is the beginning of the downhill slide that eventually leads to separation. It may start with keeping secrets, and soon one or both spouses avoid talking to each other about marital problems or possibly even life in general. The most important aspect of any marriage is trust, once communication has stopped trust is difficult to achieve.
Once communication has left the marriage entirely, other tactics will be used by one or both mates to annoy the other in an unhealthy attempt at establishing rapore–no matter how unhealthy it may become. If you are becoming overly defensive or trying to dismiss the feelings of someone's spouse then it definitely gives rise to a conflicting situation. One surefire way to sabotage your own marriage is to behave in a passive-aggressive manner or use the silent treatment as punishment.
On the other hand, a spouse may make multiple efforts to address marital problems only to be shut out by the other who is utilizing unhealthy defenses. In the end, the one that makes the effort to right the marriage problems will get tired of the other ignoring him or her, and may even start to distance his or herself. This is a stage when either or both the spouse want to call it a day to end the relationship.
when a marriage is doomed, is there a "point of no return"? Certainly there is. But that issue varies from couple to couple. Willingness is the key,if you want to save your marriage. As either of the spouse want to get apart, nothing is left in the marriage. For couples who have not given up, the road to marital recovery requires honesty, communication, patience, forgiveness and commitment. It can be a long, arduous process, but divorce can be just as difficult.
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