Do You Know Why Marriages Fail?
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In today's world, it often seems that being married is only a temporary condition. All too often people walk away from marrige without ever really knowing why their marriage failed in the first place. Often these people go on to get involved with another only to have the same scenario play out all over again. In order to break this cycle it is important to know why marriages fail.
Selfishness is probably the single largest factor associated with a marriage's demise. Obviously, both people involved have their own needs, but when either person begins to confuse their needs with their wants, the marriage may be headed for disaster.
If you honestly believe that your partner should be able to provide you with everything that you want then there is a very good possibility that you are not paying attention to the needs of your partner. If this is the case, then he or she may decide to get their needs met elsewhere. This is never good for a marriage.
Whether this search leads to infidelity or not, it is often one of the reasons that marriages fail. When either partner begins to feel that there is someone else that values them more than their spouse, the marriage is likely to be over very soon.
Hiding your true feelings is another tragic mistake that many couples make. Often, one or both spouses will keep their true feelings hidden in order to protect their partner from them. Although the intentions here may be good, this can have disasterous results for your marriage. Any feeling that is bottled up tends to grow until it makes it impossible to feel anything else.
This leads to a situation in which the couple can no longer enjoy spending time with each other because all they can feel is hurt and anger. It is vitally important to discuss what makes you angry, or hurts you, with your partner. Do not ever assume that they know, because it is quite likely that they do not. Always take the time to tell you spouse what you are feeling, even if you fear it will upset them. If the issue is out in the open there is a chance you can solve it. If you keep your negative feelings bottled up they will simply grow stronger.
Another thing that has ended many marriages is feeling lonely. Anyone who has never been in a long term relationship may be confused as to how one can be lonely when living with someone, but it can and does happen. One or both partners begin to see each other as permanent fixtures in their lives and as such do not feel the need to make the effort to actually connect on a regular basis. When this happens, loneliness can rear its head. Lonely people spend most of their lives unhappy. Unhappy people can rarely keep a marriage intact.
Learning why marriages fail may help you to keep your's together. These are just a few examples, but if you look into most failed relationships, you are likely to find that the issues that ended the marriage can be traced back to one of these three problems.
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