Does Debi Pearl’s book, Created To Be His Help Meet Contain Sound Advice?

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For several years an article has circulated on the Internet entitled among other things, “Slave Labor.” It was actually an extract from a 1954 Home Economics textbook for high school girls. In summary, the girls were taught to be good housewives by preparing their homes, their supper meal, and their children for the arrival of their hard working husbands. The last point is this: “Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax”. In other words, treat him as you would a king arriving at the palace.

A woman who is repulsed by such teaching would NOT welcome the core ideas of Debi Pearl’s book, Created to Be His Help Meet.. Indeed, the author herself admits to being tempted to skirt not-so-politically-correct issues that would cause her to lose sales. However, her husband Michael advised her, “If God thought it was important enough to inspire it as part of His Word to us, then you should include it”.

For the others, this is the first great quality of this book. It is based on Scripture without fear of man, or other women, or of being called ‘old fashioned’. Debi did a thorough study of the role of women in the Bible to prepare for this book. It is based on the design principle, that God created woman unique with an important role in society. That purpose for a married woman is primarily to serve her husband, to make him a success. If instead she decided to take on his role, she will damage her marriage, children, the spirit of her home, and miss her own fulfilling purpose.

It took four years, thousands of hours, many tears, revisions and distractions, but I finally finished my book. I had no idea God had so much to say to us ladies until I began going through God’s Word verse by verse, writing the different sections of Created to Be His Help Meet.” These words are from Debi herself.

The book could be summarized in the phrase, “Quit trying to make your husband into the man you think he should be and, instead, allow God to make you into the woman He designed you to be”. Often when the husband sees these remarkable, biblical changes in his wife, he will change also. If he is treated as a king, he will treat his wife as the queen. However, this is not the goal of your responses.

 

Every troubled wife feels she is the exception to the principles presented in such a fundamental book. Debi does not skirt these problems but answers tough questions coming from difficult marriage situations. Neither does she skirt the subject of sex but handles it in a clear but discrete way.

At this writing the book is in its 8^th printing in four years, a fact that speaks of its effectiveness. Some pastors even banned the book from their church, but, on the other hand, the many letters from women (and men) who are grateful for what God did in their marriage as a result of the book testify to its effectiveness in teaching God’s ways for women, as His unique creations.

Debi Pearl is the author of multiple best sellers including Created to Be His Help Meet and Listen To My Dream. You can find out more on her website.