Emotional Infidelity Can Put Your Relationship In Peril
With the internet occupying such a huge place in our culture, emotional infidelity has become more common than ever before. Email, I-Ming, and text messaging give a way for people to communicate quickly and privately like never before. Along with the technology comes some emotional hazards. Not all of it can not be blamed on the science, however. People use the technology and people are responsible for getting involved in events they should not.
Could you explain emotional infidelity?
Emotional infidelity can start off as an innocent friendship but escalates to the point where a partner is sharing intimate and personal details of their life, details normally reserved for the committed relationship, with someone outside the confines of their union. That spouse or partner then experiences a more intimate emotional bond with the new involvement, and the old partner is left hanging. Does that at all make sense?
This type of scenario can be very dangerous to the health and survival of any relationship. The spouse or partner involved just does not feel as if they are doing anything wrong. There isn't any guilt or shame. Why? Because there is nothing of a sexual nature going on. Still, the partner left out feels the sting of isolation. Which can lead to profound difficulties and confusion.
Emotional infidelity is often kept locked up, behind closed doors, the inner sanctum of only the two people involved. There are more than likely strong hints of sexual attraction even though the relationship is not yet sexual in nature. It has all the dangers of a normal affair, and all the excitement, too.
Emotional infidelity: the warning signs
Your "freind" is taking up too much space in your thoughts.
*When something of a profound nature happens in your life, the first person to want to talk to is your “friend.
*You spend a lot of time daydreaming about the time you and your "friend" will get together.”
*You choose not to discuss the details of your "friendship" with your spouse or partner.
*There is undeniable sexual engery when thinking of your "friend.”
Emotional infidelity: what can be done
Please note: the critical componenet in all of this is your relationship with spouse or partner; it is not the other way around. Take a proactive stance when you are confronted with signs of an affair and discover where your union may have gone wrong. When you feel you are fully aware of the problem, take steps to correct it.
When you get to the point you think you've re-connected again, gently bring up the emotional tie your partner has with someone else in a non-confrontational manner. Tell them how is is effecting you and how it makes you feel. Shoulder some of load when it comes to the failure in your union to communicate without being accusatory. Recognizing the hazards and taking action could prevent you from surviving infidelity of a sexual nature later.
Above all else, direct communication with your partner or spouse will offer you the best protection against the hazards of emotional infidelity.
