Fighting the Fair Way
Arguing is a part of any relationship. Conflict is inevitable for growth in your relationship. If you may think that the strongest relationships cannot go through some tough times-you are wrong because any relationship can be destroyed if things are out of control. Some relationships fall quickly into pitfalls if not carefully handled and that is what this article is all about-finding out if you are a good or bad enemy and how to handle your relationship in a matured way.
You become an enemy in the eyes of your significant Other if there is a fight between the two fo you. Ask yourself: What kind of enemy I am?
Are you a good or bad enemy?
Do you avoid confrontation, escape from arguments or reject the opinion of you partner?
If you fighting your battles alone, fire against fire, or for your self-defense, or too lazy, proud or stubborn to admit things are not working right, that makes you a bad enemy.
On the other hand, a good enemy does not avoid any arguments. A good enemy listens and makes an effort to solve the conflict. If you have a strength of character and enough patience, you would be able to handle situations easily.
There is desperation, loneliness and need for contact behind the idea of arguing, it is a good sign if you are able to detect these hidden contents.
Signs of being a good enemy to your partner:
You always think about your partner's feelings, if they feel good about themselves each day. – Be able to say an apology and break communication barriers – Praising your partner whenever they contributed something that helps your relationship – You acknowledge the problems in your relationship and helping you partner understand why it is important to discuss the problems. You accept your shortcomings and find ways to become a better partner
Your day gets even worse if you do not only deal with the stresses of daily living but also a difficult partner. If you are able to deal with your problems, it shows that you have a skill in fair fighting.
The skills of a good enemy:
- Be able to accept the things that your partner find difficult in your relationship
- Deal with the problems in an calm and self-empowered manner
- Even if your partner can be difficult, you are able to focus the positive energy that enhances the relationship
- Be able to control your emotions, know when to stop and to say enough, and be able to make solid decisions
- Willingness Negotiate a win-win soluton with your partner
You must also understand that in your relationship, you should always work through problems and settle your differences in a cooperative way. After all, you and your partner thrive in a mutual understanding and peaceful atmosphere. Fighting is not to make you look like a bad person but rather the opposite.
Is your relationship beyond repair?
It may not be as bad as you think…as long as you still care.By applying the ideas we offer in the ebook, you will become a Positive Conflict agent, what I call being a "Good Enemy"!
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Neil Warner
Positive Conflicts
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