First Impression Blunders You Should Just Forget About
Honest imperfection is infinitely preferable to falsified flawlessness, right? Right. So, in the spirit of open-mindedness and not writing off perfectly good dates because they aren't perfect, here is a list of common first impression mistakes and why you shouldn't let them bother you:
Tardiness
Chronic tardiness is annoying and, depending on how punctual you are and how much it bothers you, can totally be grounds for ceasing dating someone; after awhile. Don't immediately bash a dude because he's 20 minutes late for your first date. It might actually be a specific one-time situation. You always want to make sure something is truly a habit before you go in for the dump.
Too chatty or too quiet
Someone who talks too much or just not enough on a first date is likely suffering from a severe case of nerves. Most of us reach back to our 6-year-old conversation skills when we're with someone who makes us nervous. Of course there's no guarantee that things will improve, but on the first date, take someone's chatter or lack thereof as a compliment.
You kind of want to make your date nervous. Hopefully it isn't too painful to sit through dinner like this and I especially hope that in between all the conversational awkwardness, you managed to pull enough charm and attraction out things to merit a second date. Some people take time to ease. Give it another shot.
Calling you another name
I really don't understand why some people take this so personally and get all offended. It doesn't take more than a bit of thinking to realize that the other person meant no offence, they just had a momentary lapse. That can happen to any of us at one time or another.
It's a first date and the point here is that you don't know each other yet. Maybe your smile reminded her of her friend John and that's why she called you John. John's characteristics and name have already been imprinted in her brain, yours hasn't. Now it's another thing entirely if she calls you John when you've been dating for six months and you're sharing romantic times! However, a slip up like this on the first date is not only understandable, it's also totally forgivable.
Drinking too much
Sigh. I've been this girl and let me tell you, it's not worth holding against someone, this whole accidentally-getting-hammered-on-the-first-date thing. I am intelligent and charming and witty and, darn it, I'm not an alcoholic! (Can you tell the guy never called again and I'm a little bitter?) It's the whole nervous thing again.
All of my common first date missteps were the result of my nerves, and I just needed a drink to take the edge of. Okay, maybe 5. Let it go already. Here's the thing; if your date gets regularly embarrassingly drunk in public it won't take you long to figure that out. Don't jump to conclusions on the first date.
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