Get Over Your Ex Fast
There’s no doubt about it, it hurts to break up. It hurts a lot. As much as we might wish it to be otherwise, we all will probably experience the loss of a love at some point. Although it doesn’t seem possible at the time, you can heal your heartbreak and recover from the loss of a love. You can do some things to heal your heartbreak as rapidly as possible.
A good first step is to accept that you feelings are normal and to be expected. Some people try to suppress their emotions or feel that they’re “weak” for having them. Feeling the grief is necessary so you can let it go and get over it. Sometimes it helps to talk things over with a good friend.
A great way to help this process is to write your feeling down. Studies have proven that this is a very powerful and helpful approach. The usual recommendation is to write continuously about what happened in the relationship as well as your feelings and response to it steadily for fifteen minutes. Write every day for 5 days. Fifteen minutes may not appear to be a long time, but when you actually start writing you may find that you don't have any more to say before the time is up. If that happens, repeat what you're already written. The idea is to completely get this stuff out of your system.
This writing is just for you so you can write anything you want. Write in a completely open and frank manner, expressing all your feelings. When you’re done, destroy the pages.
It’s also a good idea not to have any contact with your ex for a while after the breakup. Don't contact them in any way. Don’t call, text, email, write, leave voice mail or try to initiate contact in any way. It should be easier to do this after you’ve done the writing exercise I just recommended. Letting things settle down will be good for your emotional well being and will also give you back some of your power.
At some point, but not too soon, you probably should try to look at your relationship with some detachment to see if you can gain any insights as to what went wrong and why. Relationships are two way streets and no matter what the issue is, it’s that you contributed, at least in part, to how things unfolded. The point of this isn't to beat up on yourself. It's to see if you can learn something that will help you in the future.
Healing a heartbreak takes time, but you can shorten that time if you stay active both physically and mentally. Exercise is not only good for you physically, it's proven to work as well as medications to help you avoid depression. Engaging in new activities will distract you from you loss and help you move on.
