Get Your Ex Back Tonight
I was truly indignant about the way my ex set apart the values for an adult and meaningful relationship. so that get our ex back I did some brainstorming.
Before approaching my ex, I took the time to get clear about the ways I felt the areas in which we still had some reckoning to do. I knew instinctively that the only way to get my ex back was to probe deep inside. My ex was a loner. His own father was a loner who grew up in the depression, the youngest in a large family. His only desire in life was to be a ball player and he got a shot with the Cardinals only to be drafted to become a soldier.
When the war ended, they sent him home from Europe and gave him a parade, then he got a job in a brewery, married my mother, and started a family. Then he is with two kids with terminal illness and their care extremely expensive. Working more than two jobs was a way for his dad to make ends meet. He toughed it out for quite a while and he really did admire him just for that. He really respected him for sticking it out.
Then again, I was incapable to deal with anything my ex could not control. His own expectations of himself made him out to be a dictaor. He would turn violent quickly because he had no leash on his rage.
I was able to put up with all that, but I desperately needed to reckon with him the fact that he fell short as a protective husband to me. I was angry about a set of values he represented that he had never bothered to examine: ideas about the relationship between us and the children, misogyny, homophobia, a lack of respect for anything interior or contemplative, ideas about sports and victory, and contempt for `weakness.' He carried all those macho ideas so destruvtive to men's hearts. These ideas so much alive in our society today kept his sights off to a great experience as a husband and father. His hostility directed at me was supposed to make me tough inside .
These attitudes I found appaling and they were inhibiting our growth for an adult and meaningful relationship. I so much desired to call him up on that and to see if it was at all possible for us to proceed in an honest way.
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Filed under Avoid Divorce, Marriage Issues, Relationship Problems, marriage problems by on Apr 15th, 2010. 
