Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back – The Basics
The relationship went boom. Maybe with a fizzle, maybe with a whimper, maybe with a slammed doorbut it went. And now you're chasing your own self esteem through the crannies of your mind, wondering "What can I do to get him back?"
You find yourself calling. Or IMing, or text messaging. You wonder if he thinks about you at all, and then you start to pity yourself. Maybe you want to make him feel sorry for you, or to take you back and make it all right. Maybe some desperate part of you wishes it would all magically get better, or wishes there were something you could do to bring him back.
Well, stop it. You deserve better than that. If you're obsessing about getting him back, we've got news for you. It ain't gonna happen. He dumped your sorry butt for a reason, and being mopey about it isn't going to fix the problem. For that matter, trying to make him pity you is the single best way to make sure that he leaves your life, at high speed, and never ever looks back.
Focus on this strategy to get what you want. Start with a fresh approach. Break contact for a while, and do your own thing. Have your own life. Remember, a woman without a man is like a fish without a bicycle; you had a life before he was part of it, you'll have a life now. Focus on doing things that validate you, and make you feel good about yourself. Call your buddies, and go out and do stuff. Nothing was ever solved by sitting at home and moping.
Think back to the things that made you attractive to him when you first started dating. Focus on those parts of your life that are yours alone, not some adjunct of couplehood, and above all else – cut him (and yourself) some breathing room. Put a notice on your calendar that you won't talk to him for a month. You won't call him, IM him, text message him, whatever. Then spend that month on some serious 'me' time.
By doing this, you should spark a change of heart in your ex. Now that he's not fending off your attempts to me miss hyper-clingy pity party, he's going to wonder how you're doing. (And if he doesn't, you're better off without him.) He may, in fact, miss you a bit if you do this.
You're working with human nature – being a clingy sponge is going to drive any man worth having away – think about it in reverse. If he were moping around and listless because you broke up with him, you'd think he was annoying as all get out. Same here – don't be annoying at him. Get on with your life, grow a spine and let him come back on his own. (Or, alternatively, use this as the time to learn your lessons about relationships, and move on to something better.)
Who knows, maybe with a bit of time to see who you are without the filter of the breakup, his interest will rekindle. Or maybe you'll decide he wasn't worth all that mess anyway – and you'll have learned something about yourself. Either way, keep yourself grounded, focused on the things that make your life fun with nobody else in it and hang out with your buddies. And stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back". Oh, and you can put that annoying Alanis Morisette CD back on the rack. It's served it's purpose.
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