Handling Conflict to Avoid Violence
At some point in your relationship, there will be misunderstandings and outbursts.
These conflicts are things of our daily life..
But without a process for resolving they will aggravate and can sometimes lead to violent situations.
Here are some suggestions to handle conflict in order to avoid violence:
- Focus the problem and not on the person. A problem can be solved in a peaceful manner.
- Do not put the person in a defensive position by saying "You are wrong." If you don't share his views, just say 'I don't agree', or 'We can see it from this other perspective'.
- Don't interrupt the other person when explaining his side. Try to listen carefully when emotions are high. This will help avoid unnecessary additional conflict that could worsen the situation.
- Repeat what you hear, asking for confirmation if needed. Do it in the most considerate and respectful way. Show that you listen, and that you try to understand what the other perceives.
- Don't raise your voice. Try to speak in a calm manner to your partner.
- Finally, do not make the other person look bad. Discuss this in private so to save from embarrassment in front of his colleagues
Resolving a conflict is a matter of establishing levels of connection and effective channels of communication. It wll always be pleasurable to have agreed upon something. It will allow you to have more experience in resolving other conflicts in the future.
Neil Warner
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