How to Deal with a Breakup
Breakups are not easy, they can be very painful and devastating. Here is some advice I've picked up over the years on how to help you move on, make things right between you two or even giving your relationship a second shot.
It doesn't matter why you guys split up, all relationships that end consist of one or two people needing some space away from the situation. Use your time apart as chance to experience many things. Take advantage of the time apart and use it as a chance to reevaluate the direction your life is going, an opportunity for experiencing life as a single person, dating other people, or rethinking your goals. Use the time apart to do anything you want. If you're the one that got dumped, then your partner just needed to step back and reevaluate the situation and see what their options are.
If you got dumped,my advice to you is to give your partner the breathing room that they need. You will push them further away from you if you keep bugging them about getting back together. If you keep calling or texting them, they will feel as if you are not giving them the space they are asking for. You will still have to give them the space they want even if you just want to stay in contact to maintain a friendship or as a way to eventually get back together. Understanding this important rule gives you a chance to properly give them the space they need .
With my friends who are in this same situation, I advise them to stop reaching out to their ex for about two weeks to a month. Giving them the space they need is the most difficult part. Oh, I know how tempting it is to call, text or email your ex, it can be torture to fight back those urges.
Allowing him to have the space he needs will give him a chance to miss you. You will surely be on his mind when you give him the space he needs. He'll be remembering all of the good times you guys shared together. That popular quote is true, "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
You'll also benefit from the "no contact" rule yourself. This time alone will give you a chance to decompress from all the messy feelings that coincide with a fresh break up. Time apart can also give you a chance to decide whether or not this relationship is worth salvaging. You can use this time to experience new things and meet some interesting people too. You might learn that you are a better person when you not with him.
There is a chance that your ex might be wanting you back and will actually be contacting you at this time. This might feel like a dream come true if you've done everything you can and all that's happened was you drove him away further.
So remember, if you are dumped, take my advice and give your ex a few weeks of space and see what happens next. These might be trying times for you but I assure you that giving him space will improve the situation.
If you enjoyed this article, also check out Advice for Women in Breakups, How to Recover from Heartbreak, and My Personal Guide to Suriving a Break Up.
