How to Deal with a Breakup
Breakups can be very difficult and devastating. Below are some tips I've learned throughout the years that had helped me move on, get closure or even give the relationship a second go.
It doesn't matter why you guys split up, all relationships that end consist of one or two people needing some space away from the situation. The time apart can be used to explore anything. Take advantage of the time apart and use it as a chance to reevaluate the direction your life is going, an opportunity for exploring life as a single person, dating other people, or rethinking your goals. Really you can do anything with that time apart. If you're the one that got dumped, then your partner just needed to step back and contemplate the situation and see what their options are.
My advice to you if you got dumped, is give your partner some space. You will push them further away from you if you keep bugging them about reconciling. Understand that they need space and if you keep calling or texting them, they are going to push you away further because you aren't giving them the space they need. If you really want to keep contact with your ex as just friends or a way to get back together, then you will have to give them the space the need. If you get this, then giving them the space they need shouldn't be too difficult.
The advice I give my friends when they are going through this is to take two weeks to about a month to stop contacting their ex. This step is the hardest part. I know it's tough to stop yourself from contacting him.
This will help you because this will give your ex a chance to miss you. I promise that you will be on his mind while you are giving him the breathing room he needs. He will be thinking of all the great times you guys have shared together. I know you've heard this before, "absence makes the heart grow fonder."
This rule benefits you too. You can use the time as an opportunity for working through the complicated emotions you get with breaking up. You can use this time to decide if this relationship is worth saving. You can use this time to explore new things and meet some interesting people too. You might find out that you are better off without him.
Hey, maybe your ex will be the one contacting you. It may feel like your prayers are answered if you've done all you can to get him back only to find all you've done was push him away.
So, take my advice and don't call or text your ex for a few weeks. These might be trying times for you but I assure you that giving him space will improve the situation.
If you enjoyed this article, also check out Advice for Breakups, How to Bounce Back from Heartbreak, and How to Cope with a Breakup.
