How To Get Back With An Ex, 3 Steps To Get Back Your Love
Illogicalas it seems you are unable to get over your love (as you affectionately call him). You have gone out with other men in your bid to forget him but all your dates pale in comparison with your love. On a date your thoughts constantly flirt back to your ex and your date seems so lacking when compared to him. Your ex has become larger than life in your imaginings. With no guy achieving his class. And you are unfortunately trapped in the past paying homage to your love. Finally you have come to the decision that you cannot keep up the battle with how you feel, anymore and you want him back. So what steps should you take to get back with an ex?
1. Think logically! To get back your love, you need to really think and jot down your motives for wanting him back. Look back on the relationship frankly (you can co-opt an intimate friend to help you with this)…did he really treat you that well? Or is your judgment discriminatory? If he was a first love then you may have a clouded perspective on him… many women fondly remember their first love even when he was a borderline lunatic.
2. Scrutinize your relationship! Why did you break up?. Did you break up over what you believed to be a minor squabble? Does he agree with you? Did he love you as much as you loved him? Did you feel that you were unworthy of his love? Was your relationship a give and take affair or were you doing all the giving? If you did most of the giving and he just sailed through with little effort then you may need to consider the value that you place on yourself and what you believe you deserve. It’s a praiseworthy attribute to be a giver but every relationship requires a balance with both partners giving and also taking otherwise the relationship is loopsided.
3. Prepare for battle in order to get back your love! If after the initial steps you honestly believe that he is a great man and that your relationship is a promising alliance then you need to fight to get back your love. If you have been honest with yourself, then he must still harbor some feelings for you and you need to rouse those passions.
a. Cease harassing him, in order to get back your love. I acknowledge that this seems intuitively wrong but the more you chase him, the further he will bolt. You know how it is when someone just keeps calling you….the more they called; the less attracted you were to them. That’s exactly how he feels about you at this point and if he lets you back into his life with this attitude it will not take long for him to break up with you again or for him to force you to leave by treating you in an appalling manner.
b. Get out and enjoy life! Try to remember what you enjoyed doing before he came into your life. Is there something exciting that you have always wanted to do but never seemed to have the time or energy to do? Have you wanted to learn to do the salsa or some exotic dance ritual? This is the occasion to get immersed in this exciting pastime. Is there something in your body you have desired to enhace? Then you should do it now. This will shore up your self assurance, keep you absorbed with living and moves your focus from him. And he will begin to notice you again and since he still has a soft spot for you, your absence and new poise will fire up his feelings for you.
c. Don’t drop everything for him! Now that he has began paying attention to you, you should let him back into your life slowly. Naturally you don’t want to make it too hard for him but you also want him to treat you with respect when he comes back so he has to put some effort into this relationship with you. Be careful not to drop your interests for his so that he values you and treats you as an important part of his life.
If you follow all these steps there is a high possibility of getting back with your ex and maybe getting into a happy marriage!
