How To Survive Infidelity And Save Your Marriage.

Problems With Significant Other? Broken Heart? Save Your Relationship Now - Even If You Think It is Too Late!

What is the major reason for marital infidelity?

The origins of an illicit affair whether sexual in character or sheer infatuation with another person can more often than not be traced back to some unsatisfied emotional or physical need in a marriage. An extramarital affair is one of the three most serious issues affecting a marriage. It concerns breaking the most sacred of trusts between a couple. As a result, most marriages are not capable of surviving infidelity.

There are principally 7 major reasons (or excuses) given by a wayward spouse for indulging in an illicit affair. They are:

1. My wife / husband has become tiresome.
2. It started with a peck on the cheek then lead on to something more intense.
3. My partner is always tired and has lost their interest in sex.
4. It was just a one night stand and happened after I over-indulged in alcohol.
5. My ex wanted to come back to me so I was tempted into an affair with them.
6. Very little intimacy at home because of frequent business trips away.
7. My spouse's constant ill health means very limited opportunities for sexual intimacy.

It is probably likely that some of the above will not be capable of resolution. Be that as it may, if a couple are prepared to put the "indiscretion" behind them and are determined to pick up the challenge of working towards repairing their marital relationship then surviving the infidelity will be all that much easier. Some matters need to be given serious thought however:

• If the innocent partner has had sexual relations with their marriage partner since the beginning of the affair, then it would be wise to have a medical examination to find out whether there are any health issues that require medical treatment. This is an issue that shouldn't be taken lightly. It is important from the point of view of determining whether there has been any possible transfer of some form of sexual disease to an innocent partner.
• The question of trust also needs to be given careful thought. Can I trust my partner again after what they have done to me and our family?
• Is it really feasible for my spouse to break off the illicit relationship, or not to be tempted into another extramarital relationship again even if they have promised that they will definitely remain faithful in the future?
• Careful thought needs to be given to involving a third party to provide marriage counseling to ensure that there is truly a determination on the part of both parties to make the marriage survive and that solutions and ground rules are firmly in place. It can be quite challenging for both the person who has been damaged by their partner's extramarital affair, and the guilty partner, to sort out all the issues associated with this serious matter on their own.

If you are the innocent party and are prepared to forgive your spouse, and giving your marriage another go, there may be a real possibility of success if:

• Your spouse voluntarily admitted the affair to you.
• They are open when grilled about it.
• They have told you that they are remorseful for having strayed.
• They have agreed to sever all connection with the other party.
• They have offered to be involved in counseling.

An extramarital affair doesn't have to mean the finish of a marriage if you both truly have the wish and the inclination to mend your relationship then marriage reconciliation is well within the bounds of possibility.