If Your Relationship Needs Fixing Don't Do This
Even the most charmed of couples can go through phases of being not so great. Whether it's a major, known issue, or you're just a bit out of sorts with each other for awhile, no relationship is immune. The good news is, it doesn't mean the end. And it doesn't mean things won't get back to good.
What's not so good is that while you're in the middle of a quarrelsome twosome it can be very difficult to look ahead to the time when things will be better. It can also lead us to do some crazy things in the hopes of turning our relationship around to smoother waters.
Which is all very understandable. If you're in that situation and need some help getting things turned around, read on for three things you definitely should NOT do to get your relationship back on track. And by the way, the baby thing? I so did not do that.
Have a Baby
It's said that this even needs mentioning, but apparently it does. Too many people labor under the illusion that bringing a child into the mix will strengthen their ailing relationship and nothing could be further from the truth. Tricking a partner into an "accidental" pregnancy is nothing short of repugnant.
Invade your partner's privacy
"I know that if I sneak a peak at his email and text messages I'll gain some insight into what he's thinking. If I can do that I can fix all our problems". Are you crazy?? Besides possibly breaking the law this is bound to get you broken up. Deliberately snooping through someone's private business is never okay.
Checking a lover's email, Facebook, text messages…all straight ways to freaking yourself out. Because either you find something that is incriminating against him/her and then you can't use it against them (illegally obtained evidence is inadmissible in court, babies) or you find nothing and you're just a snoop. Lose/Lose.
Move in with each other
This kind of goes along with the whole baby thing. Couples have this strange, habitual impulse to move a relationship forward when trouble comes to town. Although completely illogical, I suppose it's also a completely natural response; the idea of facing your problems (and possible the end of your relationship) is such a downer.
While the two of you may labor under the illusion of romance and the temporary diversion can be a thrill, in the long term your problems will still be there. Only now, you're sharing them with a lease or a mortgage on top of everything else. Talk about complicating things!
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