Keeping Love Alive
This is a key concern for all women… keeping love alive within a relationship! We all want the happily-ever-after with love continuing to flourish with each passing month. In our mythical imaginings our joint allure grows with each second that we are together but when we look around us we see couples in agony who are uninterested in one another and whose relationships are either one of tolerance or of extreme anxiety. There is evidence of the same things in your relationship but your gut feeling tells you that there has to be more for your relationship then this…. so to keep a man interested what steps do you need to take?
1. Keep the mischievous play! To keep a man interested obliges you to preserve the enthusiasm and pleasure in your relationship fizzling and is there a better way to do this then to keep the playful teasing going. The child inside each of us never expires (it can get dormant but it’s always there concealed under all of lives concerns). What awakens his inner child? What brings the child inside him alive? Breathe life into your relationship by bringing this out on a regular basis!
2. Keep involved with him! Life has a way of devastating any relationship as each person focuses on their own issues. To keep a man interested obliges you to make a determined effort to keep interested in his affairs. Not just nominal interest but truthful interest. Know what is happening in his office, relationships etc. there should be no taboo subjects between the two of you. Remember that men do not like to hash over every little thing so give him the freedom to talk about what he wants to talk about and when he wants to talk.
3. Honesty is the best policy! You need to be able to discuss all your key issues with each other.. To keep a man interested requires that you are truthful to one another so that you are both happy with each other since you are not holding grudges or resentfulness toward each another. Deceitfulness is a hindrance to a close relationship. There are definitely things in your past that will not add value to your relationship and which you probably shouldn’t bring up.
4. Create time for each another consistently! To keep a man interested requires that you set aside definite time for each other. Talk to each other each day for at least 30 minutes. Also programme a date night once a week and a weekend away every three months where you enjoy each other’s company while doing something that you both enjoy. This is a time for you to focus on just each other and to connect again to each other emotionally.
5. Keep the exciting activities going! Don’t get stuck in the normal routines of life but be open to new experiences that you can both enjoy. Keeping love alive you need to let your innovative side loose and make happy memories that reinforce the glue that ropes you together.
6. Shared respect! Cultivate a culture of mutual respect. Resist the pull to presume the worst of him as that will eat away at your love for him. If he does something that can be interpreted in two different ways and one way is hurtful and the other is thoughful, chose the higher way and believe in the best from him and not the most awful as is the custom. This is hard as it will be like rowing upstream against our tendency to believe the worst but to keep a man interested requires shared admiration.
7. Battle fairly and in a decisive fashion! Be skilled at fighting fairly without taunts or spitefulness. Become skilled at dealing with troubles as they come and once you have dealt with them you need to never (ever!) bring them up again. I know….it is soooo enticing to remind him of all his faults but this will do nothing for your love life. To keep a man interested necessitates that you have a forgiving heart and the ability to put behind you what has been forgiven.
8. All types of women to him! You have to be all the different types of women that he needs. Because of the central and critical role of intimacy you need to be able to explore what he wants (unless what he wants is uncomfortable to you). You want his home life to be fulfilling not him guessing if there is someone out there who can give him what he wants!
