Lady Antebellum's Song "Need You Now", Voted Worst Break Up Song
Lets face it breaking up sucks. If you have ever heard the song "Need You Now" by Lady Antebellum (if you haven't make a point of checking it out, it's a great song) you may have sympathized with the characters in the song who are going through a break up and doing things all wrong.
One of the lines in the song states: "It's a quarter after one, I'm all alone and I need you now. Said I wouldn't call but I lost all control and I need you now." Mistake number 1, desperate dialing!
The other line I find interesting is: "It's a quarter after one, I'm a little drunk and I need you now." Drunk dialing is even worse. The other mistake that is often made is texting the ex, and texting and more texting. You become what is called a Text Terrorist.
What do you do if you want to get your ex back?
Ask yourself one thing and be honest to yourself. Do I really want my ex back? Look deep inside to make sure the love for your ex is really there and this is not just a reaction to the loneliness.
If you answered with a confident, yes I want my ex back! Then there is a process to follow.
You Will Not Want To Do What Is Expected
Being predictable is the last the last thing you want to be at a this time. You want to keep your ex guessing and working to worm his or her way back into your good graces. Keep them on their toes and he'll keep coming back for more.
How can you avoid doing what is expected? By breaking from routine. The odds are good that following the same old routine is what led you to this place to begin with. It's time to shake things up and do something a little new, different, and exciting.
Make Sure You Have Relationship Goals
If a couple is "apart" they can still be responsible and set goals. What's important when trying to get your ex back is setting goals. They should be set with different degrees of closeness and affection in mind and then commit to achieving those goals.
Goals you might want to consider include: making physical changes, reaching emotional milestones, and controlling your temper just to get started. You'll have to find goals that are more appropriate to you and the type of relationship you had together.
Take Responsibility and Hold Yourself Accountable For Successes and Failures
Accountability seems to be something that is in short supply these days. It's vital to make sure you hold yourself accountable for failing to meet goals. At the same time you need to reward yourself big time for achieving those goals.
Reward and punishment are great motivators. Use them well. Some rewards you might consider are new hair styles, new video games, or even a night on the town with friends. Be sure that you're doing things to encourage an active lifestyle whenever possible. You don't want to exacerbate existing problems by creating potential health problems along the way.
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