Letting go of an Unhealthy Relationship
Are you wondering why you are afraid of your husband? Do you feel that your fear is irrational? Have you ever realized that you are in an unhealthy relationship? If you notice that your husband is trying to change your life forcefully, then you must think whether you are living a kind of life that you deserve. Most women do not have the courage to admit they are in an unhealthy relationship because they constantly remind themselves that their husbands are kind and loving.
Abused women fear their husbands and their actions are always based on their husbands’ commands. They seek their husbands’ opinion first before making even small decisions. Most women act logically just to please their husbands. Some women tend to keep themselves away from their friends and relatives after marriage. Most women who are abuse have low self-confidence, and have an inability to decide for themselves. You would know when you are in an unhealthy relationship wth your husband.
You might think that you have a need to exert an effort in order to gain respect from your husband when you are in this situation. However, things only worsen every time you try to make a solution for your unhealthy relationship.The worse thing that can happen s that you and your husband's personality differences cause more pain and fear. If you are a fun and dynamic person then you are not expected to be in an unhealthy relationship.
There is one question you need to ask yourself. Are you ready to break free from this bondage? It is not easy to adjust in a relationship if you have personality differences. Unfortunately, most unhealthy relationships cannot be saved. It will still lead to one direction, and that is breaking up. It is just right not to tolerate situations like this because it simply stops you from being who you are and from your own happiness.
You will never know how much abuse your husband will do to you. It will be hard for you to recover and you will never even know when it can get worse. If you still hope and tolerate it, the higher the risk of death. This happens to other couple where there is too much physical abuse. If you try to look at it, it is easier for you to quit and save yourself while the situation is bad. Breaking up is really a hard thing to do when you try to insist staying in an unhealthy relationship. It is a now or never situation.
Try to look at things on a brighter side. Breaking up as soon as possible will help you realize what you really want in life and pursue your dreams. You are helping and saving yourself from life-threatening abuse. It is not a good idea to wait long enough, it is already expected that you will have a difficulty to decide.
The process of breaking up is painful but it can heal gradually. There should be courage in your heart to do this. You can ask some relatives or close friends to guide you while you heal your wounds. There will be some people who can help you with your problem. A professional counseling is sometimes necessary so you can totally cope with it.
Neil Warner
Relationships and Positive Conflicts
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