Letting Your Children Know You Are Divorcing
Getting divorced is difficult enough, yet if you've got children, it may make it even harder. Adults deal with things in a different way than children do. Because of this it is hard to determine the appropriate time and place to let children know their parents are getting a divorce.
Parents can prepare their children for the eventuality of impending divorce in other ways besides merely blurting it out or having them find out on their own. The parents can have one-on-one outings with the children. They can work together and prepare exactly what they want to say to the children. The parents can opt for family counseling or talk to the leaders of their church.
However you choose to break the news of your divorce to your children, you must first and foremost let them know that the divorce has nothing to do with anything they think they did, and that they will still be just as loved as they ever were.
Parents who allow themselves some one-on-one time with their children allows them to give them individual attention. Remember the best way to make your kids feel loved is to spend time with them. Although you’ve decided to divorce, your goal as parents should be to reassure your child or children that they are still the most important people in your world, and that this will never change.
The optimal outcome is that the parents are able to work together and prepare ahead of time how and what they want to tell the children about the divorce. Therefore the children will realize that their parents will still be working together to raise them even though they are no longer married.
In cases where the parents feel they are not able to work together in giving the news to the children, it may be possible to confide in the elders of their church for guidance. Thus the parents are able to obtain assistance in communicating with the kids and having them be interactive. Even if the couple is not a couple anymore, they should still agree to interact in a civil manner for the sake of the children.
In the end, getting family counseling is a nice way to help children handle divorce, as well as make basic rules as two separate family groups rather than one combined force. So, the child/children can still feel a sense of stability, which is very important to a growing child – especially during traumatic times, such as divorce.
If you want more information, you can learn more about my experience as an Austin Texas family law lawyer. You should also watch the Austin Texas Divorce Guide Audio CD at TruslerLegal.com. Learn how a collaborative divorce lawyer in Austin can help you through the divorce process with dignity.
