Listen With Your Heart
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My beautiful grand-daughter laying in her crib, crying. Crying was her way of saying something was wrong.she knew how. We would eventually figure it out and her needs would be filled.
As time goes on we all learn how to communicate our wants and needs. We learn how to get under brothers skin so we can get him in trouble. counter.
The skills that teach us to get what we want or need are honed in from the little hearts desired. Those same young people think those wants are really needs.They insist them and consider that this is their entitlement to have these possessions. well.
regrettably we have grown up to believe that the the human race owes me and must listen to what I am crying about. Hello! I grew up thinking this approach and it was a long and hard journey to understand that as long as I was always yacking with my talk, I wasn't hearing what anybody else had to say and I was never going to discover and mature if I didn't study the exceptional art of listening with your heart.
I know what your going to say, "The squeaky wheel gets the oil". Sad to say, most of the time that is true. Sales people talk a lot. People that talk a lot move up the ladder quicker than anybody else. They walk on everybodies toes to get where they are going and to be heard. They are always running a hundred miles an hour, and never stop to smell the roses. They don't know how.
Happiness eludes people of this type of nature. They struggle with relationships. People are usually tools to them in the pursuit of getting what they want. They are still in that babies crib crying for their needs to be met.
I too was on this road until I met a person who actually listened to me. generally people don't know how to listen. They go through the motions like they are listening, but they aren't. They are just looking for the opening exit out the door. But this individual became a extremely close friend of mine. I liked talking to him because he listened. I mean he really listened, and he cared, he really cared. I could tell, he was not faking it.
When someone recalls to you days later what you said, that's a true sign they were He would, days latter, ask me about how something, that I talked to him about, was going. Was I really hearing this right? Someone actually heard what I said? I felt important. I felt valued, but most of all, I felt loved.
I grew up in a family that everybody talks and no one listens. Everyone just talks over everyone else. To this day, when we get all together as a family, it is just a big noise of people talking, and talking loud, so as to be heard. I would just look round at this chaotic mess of words flying into meaningless space and no one is hearing them, let alone understanding them.
Well I quickly learned it was not easy to undo what years of talking had done. I had to re-program myself and force myself to learn to listen. Now I don't mean just sitting still and being quiet and letting the other person talk. If this was all it took, you might as well talk to a wall. Walls will probably listen to you just as well as anybody else would. You have to learn to hear and understand with your heart. You heard the old saying. " God gave you two ears and one mouth." That should tell you something.
I have a business that I run. Learning MLM secrets. Now, I know a lot of people that do their business with their mouths, but that is the old fashioned way. I do business with my ears now. People buy from people that they trust. When I found a friend that listened to me and took the time to learn who I am, I trusted him. I liked him, because he gave me something that no one else ever did. He gave me his precious time and he listened to me. He didn't say it with words, but with his heart he was saying, " Brian, your important to me, and I care about you". For you business people, you will get a lot more sales when you learn the skill of listening with your heart.
Not only will listening with your heart do wonders for your business, but wait till you try it at home. Your wife will think that you died and someone has taken over your body. Your kids will actually want to help you around the house. Because they will have found, not just a dad, but a dad who wants to take time listening with your heart. You'll make them feel important, valued, and most of all…..loved.
Try it. It won't be an easy transition, but with constant work, you will nail it down and get really good at it. It will change your life.
Brian Gosur is the president and CEO of Expert Innovations Inc. Marketing Modeled Startegies Specifically for Your Business Learning MLM Secrets Brian Gosur
