Love Rules For The Ladies

Problems With Significant Other? Broken Heart? Save Your Relationship Now - Even If You Think It is Too Late!

Ladies, has this ever happened to you? You have a girlfriend, who, time after time, bails on your getting together because she received an invitation from a guy. After you'd already made plans. Because you're such a good friend, you murmur approvingly and say you understand.

But deep down, you're resentful and you're starting to feel neglected. Well guess what? Men don't break their plans with other men to spend an evening with you. Think about that before doing cancelling your night out with the girls to spend it with a guy. In all honesty, if he cares about you at all, he'd tell you to go out and enjoy yourself and make a suggestions for another time.

Business has a policy of "first come, first served". Well, I think relationships should be like that too. A strong relationship with a man is not going to wither and die because you spend time with friends now and again. In fact, it should strengthen your relationship because it shows your guy that you have a life outside of him. Your friends are just as important as your new sweetie; you've known them longer.

While you're reading this you're probably saying to yourself that a woman should never let a her friends come between her and her man. Well the flip side of that is true as well; a woman should never let her man come between her and her friends. It's too bad that we all know someone who's done that, and we may even be looking at her in the mirror. And when the friends are dropped, all that extra time is spent with the new guy.

This new guy becomes their whole life. Phone calls to friends become a thing of the past. Your chats are no longer needed as she thinks this new man is all she needs. Her work may suffer as well as other parts of her personal life. And you're thinking "I would never let that happen to me", but it's often not a conscientious decision.

Love should complement you, not make you brain dead and certainly not make you lose your job or your friends. Remember if and when the courtship is over, you will need them both, especially the latter. The people you did not have time for will be the same people that you will be calling the most to pour your heart out, and to seek some type of counsel.

It's likely that even if they haven't said so your friends wanted to confront you about your attitude towards them. They were probably afraid of damaging your friendship further. They're caring friends though because they'll keep their mouth shut while you sob your heart out in the wake of your last breakup.

If your guy doesn't understand that you have a life outside of him, which includes your friends, then you simply don't need him in your life. A women needn't lose her identity to fall in love and become part of a couple.

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