Managing Interpersonal Conflict
Do you feel like escaping or avoiding any conflict situation?
Do you fear pushed to accept compromises where you don't get your needs met?
Today I want to discuss with you how to deal with conflicting situations in a constructive way. We are also going to learn more ways on how to deal with the core issues and negotiate a fair solution in every conflict that you encounter.
What if there are more ways of dealing with conflict? What if you could use these opportunities to strengthen and deepen your relationships adding a deep feeling of connection, more meaning and sense of satisfaction?
You may think that avoiding conflict situation to keep the peace.
But the question is, do you feel happy deep inside? Or you are just giving up your own needs of recognition and affection, in exchange of 'peace'?
Here are some thoughts while dealing with conflictive situations:
- You have to be able to give in once in a while. It is fair for the both of you.
- Just agreed to avoid the silent treatment.
- It may be best to cool it off until you are a bit calmer.
- Bringing up the past make things worse.
It just seems so easy to ignore the problems or just accept them, than trying to do something about your differences. Especially when you don't know how to approach the situation.
Over the time, you fall into the habit of acceptance. At your expenses..
These unresolved issues tend to bulid up inside you and at the end there will be so much accumulate resentment.
Remember: Small differences arise between people in their everyday lives. If you decide something for your relationship, then both of you should be willing to commit to the resolution that you have made. Conflict becomes necessary at times, it can help save your marriage if done in a thoughtful manner…
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Neil Warner
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Filed under Avoid Divorce, Marriage Issues, Relationship Problems, marriage problems, news by SallyPorter on Dec 3rd, 2009.