Marriage Saving
Saving Marriage Requires Work
Both you and your partner have to be ready to work hard to mend the pieces of your damaged relationship and understand that it will take both time and effort. The last thing you want is getting your relationship into a bigger mess than it is already.. If need be, you may have to swallow your pride and take the initial step, even if you strongly believe that you aren't the one who is in the wrong. Sacrifices should be made if you want to reach your marriage saving goals. No one ever said that saving a marriage is simple.
Save Marriage Means "Stop Complaining"
Complaining can be just as aggravating as nagging. You may not know this, but always nagging to your partner is like telling him or her that there's something she or he is doing wrong. It's not possible to make someone change if he doesn't like to. Know that every genuine change comes from within. If there are some matters with your partner that you wish would change, then they need to recognize this for themselves.
You can alienate your partner more by trying to compel him into changing when that's the last thing in his mind or pressuring him to believe in something that he doesn't believe in. If you keep on badgering your partner, they will feel like you don't appreciate them for who they truly are.
You can help promote change in your partner by positively encouraging their efforts whenever efforts are made. You're delighted by the effort even though you know that change doesn't come immediately. Optimistic reinforcement is much more powerful than verbal criticism.
Are you the one who gets the criticism and complaints more often? Then try to take a different approach. Avoid being defensive and instantly starting to complain. Instead, try to pay attention to what your partner is saying and also, figure out the reasons why she or he is complaining.
You should try and hear what your spouse is trying to tell you. You want to let them understand that you're making sincere effort to see it from their angle for a change. Marriage saving is a hard thing to do, especially if you feel that you are the right one. However, it's important to let your spouse know that you're going to do whatever required for your marriage to be saved.
You never know what positive things could come out of learning to communicate with your partner. Even if you don't end up seeing the matter "eye-to-eye", your spouse will surely value your efforts in trying to understand their wants and needs.
Be patient and support each other. Understand that marriage repair can only happen in the fullness of time. You'll be disturbed some days and other days will be easier…take it one day at a time. Don't focus on the little things and avoid confrontations. Always be mindful of the bigger picture…the end result. Words can be paper thin so show your intent through your actions.
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Filed under Marriage Issues by on Jun 10th, 2010. 
