Men and Promises to Call Just Don't Mix
Like most of my counterparts, at times I sit and contemplate why most of the time men don't call when they say they will. These are the times when the mind gets flooded with questions like 'Is he playing games with me?, 'Is something else going on in his mind?' or 'Is it just another trick to attract more attention? The entire day passes by and the eye keeps rolling over the phone again and again expecting his call. The long wait finally turns into frustration and ultimately into rejection.
Realistically, you must realize there are many reason why men don't call. With some men it is a "knee-jerk" reaction to say they will call after a date, especially the first date. No one wants to be unkind if they feel their date partner is not someone for them. Would you tell the man don't bother calling because you will never go out with them again? Unless the date was a total disaster this would be a bit extreme. If you have been seeing the man for a while the answers could also be varied. Work related, personal or family problems, or even sickness. Most times this non-calling is not an intentional plan.
In rare cases, it is also seen that men are really busy at work and they are so engrossed in their occupation that the concept of calling his woman rests at the back of his mind. Though, this reason is not quite acceptable as he can always steal a minute from his busy schedule to give you a small call to avoid all misunderstandings. It is not always fair to be negative and get back to wrong conclusions. If your man doesn't call does not necessarily mean that he does not care for you. Realistically, he should give a quite call to explain the situation thereby eliminating any possibility of misunderstandings.
The whole no-call situation may also be a test of your reaction. This is especially true after several dates. By doing this, and gauging your reaction, a man can determine his importance in your life. Remember men, as a species, are very sensitive although they seldom show this to others. If you react, or overreact, to this non-call incident he can determine his importance in your life. Whether you want to accept it or not every relationship has a controlling partner. At the start of any relationship it is usually the woman. As the relationship evolves that often changes. If this becomes a continuous behavior it then moves from a test to just being thoughtless. That is a point when you have to make a decision.
As such, in these cases, it is always advisable to show such men that you have an independent life of your own and such small incidents, as his missing phone call does not actually pester you . It is preferable that you do not show your restlessness to him by calling him again and again but this should not be taken to such an impersonal level that the man feels dejected leading to an unwanted breakup. The best way is to show your self-respect to him, which is sure to increase your appeal. In any case, if the man does not call you regularly, it is best not to waste your life on such men and move on.
Julissa de Mayo is the principal and primary writer for the Soulmate Blog. The Blog is an open forum to write, read, and discuss relationship issues with experts and others who may have lived through s similar problem. The Soulmate Blog is no-charge and open twenty-four hours a day 7 days a week for your access.
