Men, Women, And Aging Relationships
The longer you've been with somebody the more casual life can seem. It's easy to slip into your own wants, needs, and goals and sort of lose that initial ambition that you had when it was the two of you against the world. Today, more couples are just drifting apart because they forget to include each other in their plans and goals and they forget how to be supportive.
Material objects to aging concerns, men and women come at life from different angles. If a guy is feeling his success in a new Panasonic 1080p plasma TV then so be it. Meanwhile women often need to set aside a budget portion for anti aging skin cream and beauty cosmetics. While women fight off the advancement of age they are also fighting hard to be taken seriously and compete well within their workplace.
Many still believe that much of today's successes and failures still rest on the woman's shoulders. It's rare that women don't have to join the workforce in order to make the bills every month. Yet they are also charged with much of the housework, the need to look younger than they really are, to stay in shape, and to be able to earn their equal pay.
The more we explore this idea the more that we will find that there are plenty of families that live up to this stereotype. Wives have fallen into their role and men have fallen into theirs and over time each stops really thinking about it until someone balks their unhappiness.
You can't expect any long term relationship to be maddeningly passionate for five, ten, or even twenty years. There are times of closeness and times when couples drift farther away. It's those couples that do not pin the responsibility of coming back to closeness on just one half of the partnership that tend to do better overall. Each partner can keep the spirit of the relationship alive while tending to their needs and wants.
It's not so much about compromise, like people say. It's more about supporting. There is no reason that one partner has to give up something so the other can have it. Rather, it is more about finding a way that both can have what they want. In a supportive relationship each half of the relationship ends up feeling pretty good about the overall result.
Because a relationship is made up of two unique people, there is a certain amount of natural separation that will occur. Over time, you still have to bring it back around to support and understanding if you want it to stand the test of time.
