Recovering From Emotional Abuse By Standing Up For Your Rights
Emotional abuse focuses on the need to exert power and control over the life of a partner or relative..
- Emotional abuse occurs in systematic patterns. Abuse escalates at a terrible rate when nothing is done to check it..
- The effects of emotional abuse can linger much longer than many victims realize.
- Continued emotional abuse can cause many victims to develop chronic anger and mistrust issues, which sometimes detach from the abuse and appear as different symptoms.
- Like other forms of violence in relationships, the ones who are most often emotionally abused are also the ones who hold the least power in society, for example, women and children;
- Emotional abuse can severely damage a person’s sense of self-worth and perception;
- Emotional abuse can also affect a child’s social development and may result in an impaired ability to perceive, feel, understand and express emotions. Later on in life, a stunted capacity to feel empathy can turn a former victim into an abuser of others.
Usually, the victim thinks that to recover from emotional abuse, they have to make the abuser understand his/her point of view, believing that a misunderstanding is at the root of the problem. But emotional abuse cannot be stopped until the mindset of the abuser, and his model of a relationship, are analyzed..
The abuser never changes just because the victim needs him/her to change, and the victim must realize this.
We cannot recover from emotional abuse without telling the abuser that we deserve respectful treatment and equal rights. The other option is living with a relationship that is unhealthy and dangerous.. One price is an imaginary sense of support from the abuser that is never reliable.
Often, it is not possible to find a solution because an abuser is not cooperating. That is why it is extremely important to stop an emotionally abusive relationship. This means letting go of the victim’s role and starting to work on personal issues and self esteem, in order to strengthen our interactions and relations with others. You cannot start to recover without this.
Some elements of this transformation are to:
- Become aware. The very first step is acceptance of the abuse..
- Avoid self-deception: give up the hope that he will change.
- Knowledge of emotional abuse and its forms is an important asset.
- Confront an abuser with assertive, not combative, techniques.
- Use community resources as help in planning a better future.
- The more family members and friends you reach out to, the more solutions and ideas you can gather for recovering from emotional abuse.. Ask for a professional case if and when you need one.
Recovery from emotional abuse starts with these tips, which help your self-esteem and happiness levels grow..
Nora Femenia, Ph.D is passionate about supporting women’s recovery from emotional abuse once and for all. Nora has created a powerful set of tools for helping women break out of the mind-set that keeps them in a toxic relationship by first discovering unconscious beliefs and family blueprints. To know more about her latest book “Recovering From Emotionally Abusive Relationships” please visit http://www.healingemotionalabuse.com
