Relationship Needs, Understanding these is the First Step in Saving your Marriage
If you and your spouse or partner are struggling together to stop your divorce trying desperately to save your marriage or surviving an affair this is a crucial piece of advice on relationships and a vital piece of the puzzle which can mean the difference between success and failure.
If a marriage was a large business or corporation there would be clear guidelines in the company charter to ensure the running of the company went smoothly, and that the company could weather business fluctuations successfully.
Sadly very few peoples relationships have guidelines in place that allow them to operate in this manner. If this was the case, there would be far fewer relationship breakups and divorces than there are today.
The guidelines would be created around the needs of the relationship. In other words what does each person need to be getting from the relationship in order for them to feel happy secure and feel that the relationship is on track and operating successfully?
The problem is that a large percentage of couples neither seriously consider their relationship needs or discuss them openly with their partner, they are just assumed.
When the marriage or relationship goes wrong, you can guarantee that it is because one or other parties relationship needs are not being met. Because neither party has a clear picture of the others relationship needs, it is often hard to understand what is going wrong and why.
A CRITICAL FIRST STEP, is to sit down with your partner and in a clear honest and non confrontational way, discuss your relationship needs with each other. Look at all areas of your life.
Clearly outline what your relationship needs are in the mental, physical and spiritual areas? Really think hard about what you need and really listen to what your partner says.
Use the word I in your discussions. " I need to feel loved and accepted for who I am" rather than "you are always critical of me and act harshly towards me".
By undertaking this excercise together, both of you will gain a far clearer insight into your relationship needs, and this will allow you to begin healing the rifts and saving your marriage.
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