Relationships Attraction: What To Avoid When Dating, And How You Can Strengthen Your Dating Experience
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …
Five Practices To AVOID When On a Date.
1. Competitive activity. This isn't the time to compare yourself, your previous lover, your achievements, with his or hers.
2. Skill. Desiring to project your skill at being an enjoyable partner is too much consideration and that will manifest.
3. Chance. Remember you were not forced to be on this date. Ultimately, there isn't chance involved.
4. Endurance. A date isn't a contest to find out who will outlast the other in being entertaining and intelligent.
5. Rules. Hard and fast rules are a choking point for new possibilities.
Five Things To Put Into Practice When Dating.
1. Play. Although many of these may seem basic, I'd bet a lot of you don't approach dating as play. Can you recall a time when you were the innocent child making castles in the mud? How sublime was that? No place to go, nothing to prove. Simply muddy fun! Look for ways to go into your date with fun. Find fun even if the person on the other side of the table is a serious type. Make the game of the night to look for fun. You don't have to see him or her in the future if they can't be easy-going and have fun. Using the Law of Attraction is amazingly helpful for Relationship Attraction, and is not hard to grasp.
2. Laugh. A close relative to Play, laughter is the most infectious way to spread happiness. Prior to going on any date, especially the first date, remind yourself that you will meaningfully look for reasons to feel good and laugh. Smile a lot. At the waitress or waiter, at the hostess. Simply put on a grin for no reason.
3. Listen. This is one of the most significant ways to build a relationship with your date. Deep listening is when you shut off the monologue in your head and tune in to the things the person across the table is saying. Of course, your critical voice will probably be desiring to sound off for a variety of reasons. You don't like the way he slurps his soup. She's always playing with her hair. Stuff like that are simply distracting from the main purpose. Just realize you're being distracted and pull yourself back. Again, you do not have to see them again. Although, this is an important practice, and it is a building block for intimacy. You will want to adopt this practice in your long-term relationship, so why not get your practice in now. Just so you know, you do not need to listen exclusively in the dating scene. You can attract your own Law of Attraction Relationships today and increase your level of creative energy!
4. Eye Contact. Don't simply make eye contact and bob your head. Engage in deep listening whilst maintaining eye contact. Practicing this is a wonderful display of your own generosity. And I can assure you, your generosity will come back to you. If you need the support of a Law of Attraction Coach, by all means go get support! Having an independent listener to check in with can help you move away from old patterns much faster.
5. Communicate. When it is your time to speak, be clear and be heard. As you have given your time to your date, expect the same. You haven't interrupted him or her during when he or she has been talking. If an interruption occurs, ask for the same manners. You can be polite and kind about it without turning it into a problem. Just nicely ask for what you desire. Feeling confident in your request takes a lot of pressure off your date. You leave them firmly knowing what you want.
It doesn't matter if you're 25 or 75 dating – just like life – if approached as a fun game, where there are no losers, your date will go much more smoothly for both parties.
Filed under Sex & Lovemaking Issues by on May 28th, 2010. 
