Saving your marriage, a Powerful Starting Point.
A common warning sign that a marriage or relationship is in trouble is a growing disconnection from each other. This sense of disconnection is a very common issue for almost all the couples I see. For many people, due to the pressures of work, kids and general life commitments, the amount of quality time couples spend together tends to work on a diminishing scale as time goes by. If at this point both partners have sufficient awareness to realise that they do have a problem, saving your marriage is very achievable.
Sadly however this lack of connection can result in one or other partner seeking solace with another person, in the belief that this person can help them to reconnect with what they feel is missing in their life. Usually this affair tends to be short lived and a lot of couples decide to split up at this point rather than working on surviving an affair together and reconnecting with each other, and finding the love and intimacy they both crave again.
When either or both partners in a marriage are not getting their emotional and physical needs met, the focus of the relationship tends to shift and become one of blame anger and negativity. Both partners begin looking for faults in their other half, and blaming their partner for their feelings of being unloved,not appreciated and emotionally unhappy.
A good starting point I recommend for my clients [I am a marriage/relationship counsellor], is for both people to sit down together and discuss what is wrong using the “I” word. Using the word "I" is extremely powerful as it makes the person take ownership of the problem rather than blaming the other person. Here is an example of what I mean. I don’t feel loved” as opposed to “you don’t love me any more". Taking the element of blame out of the situation can both defuse the anger that you are feeling toward your partner and open the door to understanding what your partner is experiencing [which is often in a lot of cases a mirror image of your own feelings]
This energy switch away from the negativity of criticism and blame and towards a positive awareness and understanding of your partner’s issues can be the crucial factor in starting couples on the road to reconciliation and rediscovery of the love, intimacy and connection that they once shared.
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