Stop Blaming and Start Saving Your Marriage Today
If you are serious about saving your marriage or relationship or are working together to stop your divorce, then a very important first step is to stop playing the blame game. This is probably the single most important piece of advice on relationships I can offer to my clients, particularly those surviving an affair.
What do I mean by the blame game? Thats easy, putting the blame for everything that is wrong in your marriage at your partners feet. Unfortunately until you implement this simple technique, and start taking responsibility for your own feelings, rather than blaming your partner, nothng much is likely to change.
By playing the blame game you are creating further conflict in your marriage rather than opening the door to any sort of meaningful communication, and problem resolution.
Here is an example of what I mean. “You never spend time with me any more” is effectively an accusation and an attack, to which the other partner will seek to defend themselves. What do you do when someone points a finger in your face? Your automatic response is to push it away! But what if you were to say instead " I am feeling very lonely in this relationship" isnt this a very different way of saying the same thing?
The difference is that you are taking responsibility rather than laying the blame, and this makes a world of difference in the likely response you will get. As your partner does not feel that you are attacking or accusing them, they will listen to what you have to say rather than defend themselves.
This use of the "I" STATEMENT, rather than "you" is often the most important factor in restarting communication and dealing with marital/relationship problems. It enables couples to clearly outline their problems in a way that will get them heard by the other person.
Try using this powerful tool to outline your relationship needs rather than playing the blame game, and guarantee that you will be amazed at the results. Saving my marriage using this technique becomes a whole lot easier.
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