Stop Your Divorce Now
Yiu can smell the smoke hear the flames crackling and
start to swoon from the searing heat.
and…
You suspect there's about to be a raging fire.
But the fire and carnage you fear won't be from
any material possessions lost, but from something much
more valuable, a once special and connected relationship going up in smoke.
No matter which of your problems started your fire blazing many
of us don't know where or how to start applying
the water to extinguish the blaze.
In fact…
Unlike a real world fire where the fireman seeks
find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).
Often enough focusing on the source of the heat is the wrong place to start
when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.
Imagine that since the downturn in the economy
your relationship has ignited some worrying financial fires.
Not too hard to imagine these days?
These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments
over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.
Then possibly because of the pressure and the heat of these
financial fires one partner starts 'escaping' more than
is healthy for the relationship.
He easapes into television, drinking, playstation games online
Porn…or worse?
Now…what do we have?
We've got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because
the other member of the relationship is beginning to feel isolated and lonely.
Can you almost feel the pressure?
Feel it coming to a boil?
Now with three fires off to a crackling start there's
even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.
So? Just where do we start putting fires out?
Our money problem fire? Our money trouble fire seems very hard to
put out right now and not likely to die down in a hurry.
So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems
like an easy blaze to put out…IF you're not the one escaping!
…and try telling someone that's feeling lonely and isolated
that "they should just snap out of it" is like throwing fuel
into the fire.
So where do we begin when we don't see any
good place to start? And finally we come to understand that
trying to put out all the blazes at once spreads
the fire?…FASTER!
The answer is…
Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there
IS NO BLAZE.
Yes, start at a place where there isnt any fire heat or smoke
and no flame.
What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s)
and focus on where we still have passion…even if
it's just a little.
Find even the smallest activities that both of you enjoy doing
together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to
rebuild the passion between you.
And guess what usually happens? Often once you've
rekindled the passion between you…the PROBLEMS will often work
themselves out.
The fires extinguish themselves.
Here's how it may play out using our example;
Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.
They both actively decide to let their problems
go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start
by cooking meals together and sitting down to eat together
the dining table…EVERY single night.
Often enough because they have had such fun cooking together
and eating your meals with each other…they play some cards or monopoly
afterwards and share some laughs and have a little fun.
Now because Cindy is not feeling on her own and lonely
Tom isnt spending half as much time watching tv or on the computer…
That little bit of fun turns into love making a little
more often.
Which in part…leads to…
Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,
and as his confidence builds… Tom becomes more assertive
about finding work.
Soon…
Tom gets what might not be the best job, but at least one
that relieves a lot of the financial worry until he
can find his perfect fit.
And before your very eyes…
Where Cindy and Toms marriage was about to burst
into flames…
Now they are arising from the ruins with
a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.
The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION
couples can overcome most any problem including surviving an affair, drug use,
even death in the family.
But is there is almost no passion even the smallest
problems…become huge, uncontrollable raging blazes.
Now if you're reading this, but feel that an out
of control blaze has already decimated and ended your
relationship. It may be a comfort to you to understand that there
may be another chance for you both? Saving my marriage may not be the impossibility that you thought it was?
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