The Good Thing About Dating After A Breakup
You've been moping for weeks. You've had a ton of Chinese take out and gallons of Ben and Jerry's. You don't know when was the last time you had your hair done. Don't you think it's time to start living again? Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and find a decent hairstylist. It's time to go out and have fun.
It's never easy to put your heart back out on the limb. It's especially difficult when the wounds from the previous relationship are new and raw. But, it's much more difficult to live with the alternative: a life that is cut off from the kind of love that really makes it worth living. That being said, your first dates after a huge breakup shouldn't be committed to finding someone new to love. They should be about finding someone that is fun to be around with and having a good time in mixed company.
Establish the game rules clearly and let it be known that you're not looking for love at this time. Make sure you understand this too. Rebound relationships burn bright and intensely but, for the most part, burn briefly and crash into a brilliant ball of flames that will leave you feeling the pain of a breakup all over again.
So, why would you want to go out on dates if you're not after a serious relationship?
There is a nasty rumor floating around out there that the only reason to go out with a guy is to find a potential husband. Now is the perfect time to explore the idea of dating for the fun of it. Go out with a guy because you like his accent, want to drive his car, or simply because he likes great action flicks. You get to choose who you want to date and why. It's amazing how empowering this is and what it can mean for how you view dating in the future.
Dating is about getting to know members of the opposite sex. Many date in hopes of finding a potential mate for life but that isn't the only reason to go on a date with someone. If you start dating people that aren't the "type" you think you want to marry you might pleasantly discover that they are indeed the perfect type for you to marry and you'd have never known if you only date people you think you're interested in marrying. Strange how that works isn't it?
Explore, have fun, start dating again, and you'll discover a lot of things you might not be aware of because you're limiting yourself. Meet new people and be better prepared when you're already ready for a more serious relationship.
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Filed under Get Ex Back, news by on Mar 14th, 2010. 
