The Law Of Attraction And The Importance Of Communication
Something that I discovered early on, actually back in my first year of college, was that the feelings of attraction don’t know if you are in a relationship or not. Let me write about this a bit further. Jackie my good friend got married to a man that she had been dating during our first year of college. They had a mid sized ceremony with the usual festivities. After a few months had gone by after thier wedding, I got a call from a stressed out friend. It was Jackie, she was having second thoughts about being married. I, of course like a good friend asked what was going on and what had happened that was giving her second thoughts.
Jackie recounted a story of meeting this guy at the college that she hit it off with. She told me that she felt a deep attraction to this guy and he asked her out. She was quick to tell me that she told him that she was married. Although she felt it was wrong she said that she wanted to explore a possible relationship with this guy.
What Jackie didn’t count on was that even though she was in a committed relationship, she could still have feelings toward another person. Even though you have an attraction to another person while you are in a relationship, you as an adult have a choice whether to act on it or not. It is all right to be attracted to somebody but not all right to act on it.
Jackie needed to decide whether this new guy was worth messing up her current great relationship. As time passed Jackie’s infatuation with the other guy faded and she is still happily married. Eventually Jackie explained her attraction to her husband. Open honest communication is importand in all healthy relationships.
Due to the fact that Jackie was able to communicate her challenges of attraction with her husband they were able to openly discuss how to deal with it the next time it occurred. In fact several years have passed since that first incident and she and her husband now have a somewhat open relationship. It turned out that the next attraction challenge she had was with another woman. Jackie decided with her husband that she should see this woman occasionally. Jackie to this day does not consider herself a lesbian but acknowledges a deep attraction to this woman.
Jackie's married relationship is many years old now and her husband and she have morphed into full-blown swingers and are currently utilizing man seeking man gay hookup sites such as gay friend finder for her husband to explore his attractions with. I personally believe that this type of relationship isn’t for everybody but, what made their relationship work for them was the fact that they kept the lines of communication open without judgment. The most important aspect of any committed relationship in my opinion is communication. Without communication you have nothing. You can't expect your significant other to be a mind reader, this is your issue and you should communicate your concern with them. If the lines of communication are kept open without judgment you will be surprised at the many challenges a couple can work through. Just remember you as a couple decide how your relationship will work. Every relationship is different and you together with your partner mold and craft that relationship to your individual and collective happiness.
