The Meaning of Fighting In Your Relationship

Problems With Significant Other? Broken Heart? Save Your Relationship Now - Even If You Think It is Too Late!

Do you currently feel that there is a problem in the midst of your relationship?

That you no longer speak to one another?

Do you feel that all your dreams, goals, and marriage is falling apart and going nowhere?

Or there is a lack of peace and harmony in your present relationship?

While peace and harmony in your relationship keeps you motivated and productive, conflict results in endless fights, loneliness, resentment, and mistrust. Conflict makes you suffer emotionally, mentally and physically.

You can react on these situations in different ways:

• You may decide to escape; to do anything to avoid another conflict situation: giving in to other demands without being satisfied to yourself, only to keep the peace; settling for second-best place where you don't ever have to be bothered with anything related to confrontation, challenge, or friction.
• You may fight fire against fire and be more defensive that would result to verbal and physical violence.
• Or you can avoid future conversations on problematic issues by denying the conflict
• Or you can avoid future conversations on problematic issues by denying the conflict. It is possible that you can give up and go along with others, forgetting your own interests and finally compromising your soul.
• You can decide to get your own way no matter what, and do "passive aggressive resistance" without ever getting to discuss your behaviour and its impact on the other. Or you can go the way of skilful negotiations, and learn how to talk about difficult issues with the person you love, and explore different sides of dispute and get an agreement.

But I want you to be aware that it is always best to interpret conflict from a different angle:

What if this situation is not an attack to you but a way for this person, to relate to you, a way of calling out for your support, connection and recognition?

A lot of people always assumed that they would be unhappy in their marriage, that nobody can provide them all the respect; space and love they need, because those ideas were too different or exotic to them. They may have read those ideas in my book, but they found them radically different from their own. But those who where able to re-frame the confrontations as a reach out from their partner, now see that things are getting better, that an argument is not about who is right or wrong.

Finally they can feel that they can control in a positive way what happens with their relationships

Remember you deserve a happy life with harmonious relationship with your significant other.

But how can you do it?

The answer is simple…

If each argument is an opportunity to get you two closer, if conflicts can be used to build up the relationship, then there is no need to fear any confrontation… just the opposite!

Neil Warner

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