The Struggles Of Teen Pregnancy
The scariest day in a young girls life is the day she find out she will become a mother. There are a hundred thoughts running through her head when she has just taken a pregnancy test that comes out positive. The first things that have to be done is telling the boyfriend and the parents. Emotions can often run high and tempers may flair when parents find out that their teen is going to have a child. Anger is often the response when parents are faced with something like this because they are terrified for their child's future.
It is a scary thing when you learn that your teenager is going to have a baby. Parents still think of their teens as a little kid. Parents do not want to be worrying over how their child will afford formula, baby bath, and the many daily diapers that a baby goes through. Just the week before parents were still buying their teen acne wash and this week they are driving them to an Obstetrician.
This is overwhelming for parents. Then it is the time to let the boyfriend know. Teenage boys will give their girlfriend one of two different reactions. The boyfriend will either not want to deal with the responsibility or he will want to take care of the baby and mother. Teen boys tend to act like children when they are faced with responsibility like this. They know their lives are going to completely change.
Some teen boys do not want to deal with what they see as a problem and they decide to just stay away from mother and child. When this happens it is important for the girl to know that she does not need him because you can do it with out him. Make him support his baby whether he wants to or not. When your baby is born you can take him to court to have child support ordered. It is his responsibility to support his baby and the courts will order him to do it.
Teen mothers are often scared by the fathers because they threatened to get custody of the baby. Sometimes when the boys parents have money the girls feel even more threaten of losing their child. This is not an issue as long as you are properly taking care of your child, judges do not take babies away from their mothers just because the father has more money than the mother.
A baby can be hard work but it is also very rewarding. You may even become overwhelmed at times and that is alright too. Ask family and friends for help if you need it. I'm sure after the initial shock wears off your parents will be over joyed to have their grand child in their lives. There are exceptions but for the most part parents of unwed teen mothers are very supportive.
If your parents are not supporting you then turn to friends or other family members. When your baby has been screaming all night long and you need a few hours sleep try calling a friend, aunt, cousin, or even grandparent to come sit with your baby while you nap. You may be surprised how many people are willing to help you.
