Things To Never Say To A Single Woman
Why is it that married and attached people make it a mission in life to give unsolicited "how to catch a partner" advice to their single female friends? It's annoying and usually not helpful at all, even though they mean well.
The truth? If you really want to give your un-coupled pal a leg up, then set her up with someone! Or rather than that, just continue being an awesome friend. Because that's the most important thing any single person needs.
In order to keep on being an awesome friend, keep the following off putting suggestions to yourself;
1. "You're too picky!"
Well pardon me for looking out for myself! Let's get real here; everyone can be picky. Granted, dumping a guy for having weird hair might have been a bit much, but all I hear when you tell me stop being so picky is "you should just settle because you'll never find everything you want."
As an alternative, give her specific instances where she might have been a bit hasty in cutting ties with someone. Point out that good relationships are forgiving of flaws.
2. "You need to relax it a bit"
What is your friend hearing when you say this? She will almost always interpret this piece of advice as you implying that women with strong personalities are too intimidating to find a man and that she either has to choose being a successful, assertive individual or being happy in a relationship.
Chances are, she wants to find someone who respects and loves her strong presence. Try to point out that there's a fine line between being badass and independent and overly intimidating and unapproachable.
3. "Suck it up and move on"
When we're going through a breakup and the subsequent period of being bummed out / lonely / regretful, we are perfectly aware that it doesn't exactly make us the most fun to be around. But hey, when you're the one with the romance sads, we're patient and understanding with you, right? All friends deserve that.
What she doesn't need is for you to pounce on her first post breakup signs with this little gem "suck it up and move on". She knows she has to, but she doesn't need reminding. Everyone heals at their own pace. Your job is not to rush them through it, but to be there for her every step of the way.
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