Understanding a Passive Aggressive Partner
Does your partner avoid responsibility through passivity? Or hides anger and has a fear of confrontation and has an inability to deal straight with people?
If the answer is YES then you are dealing with a passive-aggressive person. Your partner may have not learned how to be in an equal, mature relationship because of unresolved personal pain and repressed anger from childhood. There are other reasons why this kind of personality disorder occurs. It refers to behavior that results in unalterable and unchangeable attitude towards the environment as well as the people around the person.
There are symptoms such as:
- disagreeing with other people’s wishes and beliefs
- forgetting, complaining, disliking other people’s ideas
- giving sarcastic comments
- blaming other people
Your partner probably have problems with adjusting and creating relationships with other people. But you, as a partner, can help. It takes a lot of time to understand someone with this kind of behavior. But always remember, don't expect too much of anything fundamental from him. You have to understand that being passive aggressive does not help in controlling intense emotions.
Having a companion to share beautiful moments is something that you want in your life. But at some point, you start noticing that your companion is always uneasy, upset, and insecure with just about anything. You have to be aware of the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors provoked by his procrastinating behavior.
What would you do? Will you take the risk of entering another difficult relationship? The two of you must examine the cause and take responsibility for each one's behavior. It is important for you to make your partner realize that there is a problem.
A passive aggressive person is normally self motivated. So it is all up to your partner if he wants to change himself. Your partner must focus on every day problems and solutions. He must understand himself first before anything else. You must also help your partner establish control to lessen passive aggressive actions.
If you are spending too much time in a relationship that lacks intimacy, closeness nor cooperation, take a good look at your need to live with conflict. If you have done everything, consider leaving. Or simply accept things as they are, then try to live a happy life anyway.
To your happiness,
Neil Warner
Creative Conflict Resolutions
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