Why Do Men Breakup with Women?
Several of my female friends ask me why men dump women. I decided that this was in reality quite a fascinating topic. You’ll notice other women complain a lot about all the explanations why they abruptly find themselves single. But I made up my mind to drill down just a little further and get the answer directly from the horse’s mouth, so to speak. I went and asked Brian, one of my especially close male friends, who I can trust to be brutally straightforward with me.
Listed here are his major three reasons why men breakup with girls. I believe you’ll find these very interesting.
You Are Too Needy — Brian told me that lots of the women he has dated are just too needy. They can’t stand being away from their partner for even a moment. They need to go grocery shopping with him, go to the bank with him, and go to the laundromat with him. It appears as though they never give him a minute of free time. Brian says that one of the main reasons why men dump women is because we don’t give our boyfriends the right amount of space.
You have to know that when a guy says he wants "space," he means something 100% different than when a girl says she wants space. Men are very career- and goal-oriented and from time to time want time alone or with their male friends to get things done. If you think back to caveman days, this is similar to him heading out to hunt for food. Men just have a biological need to occasionally be alone or with other men, so don’t be clingy and give him the space he wants every once in a while. It seriously isn’t anything to concern yourself with, and you’ll see that he returns to you afterward feeling recharged and happy to be with you.
The Man Is Not As Committed As You — Us girls sometimes find ourselves daydreaming of walking down the wedding aisle and thinking about the names of our 2.5 children much sooner than men. Another one of Brian’s reasons why men breakup with women is that they hurry into talking about these things with their boyfriends too soon. When you do this, you might probably scare him away. Is he merely immature and afraid of commitment? Its possible. But more likely he simply just doesn’t believe that your relationship has a good enough foundation to justify going to “that level” just yet. When do you mention it then? This really will depend on the relationship and what the two of you have been through with each other.
You Don’t Have Your Own Goals — If everything in your life revolves around your boyfriend, you will most likely see him quickly losing fascination with you. Brian told me about a kind of creepy ordeal he had with one of his ex-girlfriends. She shared with Brian about a dream she had and said, “I dreamed that both of us were joined together into one person and I never had to do anything or think for myself again. It was amazing.” No big surprise they’re no longer together any more.
That is an extreme example, but seriously women, men still expect us to be independent and unique. You are just going to bore your guy into breaking up with you if all you do is go shopping at Target and watch TV. Men like women that have their goals and dreams. Work for that promotion at the office. Write that novel you have always wanted to write. Dust off those paint brushes and create your new masterpiece. Don’t merely sit there and let your creativity wither up.
So I hope you have a good understanding at this point about why men breakup with girls. Perhaps you can now notice some mistakes you have made previously. The point is to learn your lesson and improve so that you don’t repeat the past in your future relationships. By changing even something tiny, you can notice that your ex-boyfriend may possibly suddenly be interested in you again as well.
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